This particular site isn’t exclusively about dating, but you can mark yourself as “available” on your profile, plus they have a similar match percentage thing as OKCupid has. Could there be another reason why some random girls would message you? Maybe they’re just looking for friends?
I’m so bad at understanding Internet conventions...
if she includes a gif of her bouncing boobies, then i would think so.
;-)
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
Not necessarily. I have started some good conversations based on things in people’s profiles, with nary a romantic interest.
(which site btw?)
what was the message? i would wager that if they have only seen a profile on the internet and have never interacted with you, any romantic interest will be somewhat tentative.
Obviously, but I’m just wondering what’s their intention? If we’d exchanged some emails, should I ask them out at some point, or are they just looking for someone to chat with online?
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
— resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.
Why don’t you talk to them a bit and find out? x-post
How bloody weird—I deleted my OKC account twice, but a friend’s bf (who she met on OKC) told me that I’m one of his highest matches (err...) and the thing STILL HASN’T BEEN DELETED!!! And there’s all these messages in there. ARgh.
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
— resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.
— temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)
I find it a bit embarassing to ask someone “Are you interested in me?”. If some random girl approaches me in a pub, at least in most of those cases I know what it’s about.
Tuomas, i don’t mean to sound curt here, but if a girl talks to you at a bar, do you worry because there’s no-one to ask what her intentions may be? just imagine that instead of being on a dating site you are in a bar, and this girl has come up to you and said ‘hi’.
I guess that was an x-post. Anyway, my point was exactly that I know how these things work in a pub, but not online.
like i say, just act as if you’re in a pub situation.
you spilled my fucking pint.
This would be good advice for a lot of internet situations. (Including ILX, sometimes, I think.)
I couldn’t afford to buy a round if it involved the whole of ILX though.
I do act on ILX as if I’m in a pub e.g. calling someone out if I think they’re being a nuisance etc. I’m one of those annoying ‘always in there’ regulars propping up the bar in that respect.
I do think acting as if you’re in a pub is good advice for ilxors. I’m definitely not comfortable enough to do that as much as I’d like (something about typing rather than talking), but I think I should aim for it. That said, I’m not generally a nasty person, so.
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
— resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.
— temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)
— It’s Teatime in Buttercup Land
Tuomas, post translation and pix plz
If you suspect someone might be interested in you, do you always have to courage to ask it? Because I’m not always that brave.
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
— resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.
— temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)
— It’s Teatime in Buttercup Land
— bohren un der club of gear
“HI, DO YOU LIEK ME?” or any similar line of questioning is likely to result in NO REPLY.
You shouldn’t have to ask anything like that since it is implied by the context of the dating site, and any direct question asking if she likes you / is interested in you is going to come off as bizarre & premature. She probably hasn’t even made her mind up about you yet! Most likely she is just initiating conversation to see if she wants to actually get to know you!
Relax. There is a flow, go with it.
Yeah, that’d be my answer as well.
Why did you start thread, you ingrate choad?!?!?!?!?!?
YOU’VE BIN HIT BY THE
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|SEXY TRUCK | ‘|“”“;.., ___.
|_..._...______===|= _|__|..., ] |
”(@ )’(@ )“”“”*|(@ )(@ )*****(@
THIS IS A SEXYY TRUCK IF U RECIEVE THIS IT MEANS UR FUCKIN SEXY.... IF U GET THIS BACK UR EVEN SEXIERR...SEND THIS TO 10 PEOPLE....IF
That dangling “IF” is so suspenseful! “IF” what!?!?!?!?!
Ya, what elmo said.
smell sign.
....IF YOU DONT YOU WILL HAVE NOTHIN BUT BAD RELASHUNSHIPS AND ALL UR KIDS WILL NEVER NO THEIR DADDYS AND ALSO THEY WILL BE GAY AND HAV OTHER BIRTH DEFEX TOO
Okay, I have a date next week. I guess it wasn’t as difficult as I thought.
WORDS TO LIVE BY.
WHY NOT ASK THEM?
— resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.
— temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)
— It’s Teatime in Buttercup Land
— bohren un der club of gear
― a_p (a_p), Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:13 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Permalink
“are you remontically interested in me?”
I have no memory of what this was about... But I guess I went on a date, since that’s what my last post said?
Selective amnesia?
Nah, I was just having a lot of “action” around that time... Can’t remember everything.
That’s good
I have no memory of what this was about...
― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:09 (1 hour ago)
guys Tuomas can’t even remember his own life, no-one ever rag on him for not knowing something from the world at large again
yeah but it’s prob easier to google who Barack Obama is than what Tuom was doing in 2007 tbf
Well, do you remember every date you went on 4 years ago?
It’s true that I tend forget stuff like that, though. I even forgot to go to my dad’s wedding.
wow
wait waht
uh.
Who were you supposed to go with?
He had a lot of dad action that month