sleepovers on weeknights & shit

You’ve restored my faith in OKCupid, by the way (I have an ass-ignation tomorrow night).

the idea of okcupid/guardian soulmates still repels me tbh. i’ve never done it. i have no idea what i’d put on my profile.

been doing it since Clinton was president

okcupid is cool cuz answering questions is more important/telling than what you put in your profile, and it does do a decent enough job of narrowing down ppl that you might be interested in

at least in terms of personality, looks is obv up in the air

You’ve restored my faith in OKCupid, by the way (I have an ass-ignation tomorrow night).

― Lord Sotosyn, Monday, December 19, 2011 9:51 AM (8 minutes ago) Bookmark

dope

stopped doing it when Clinton was president. xxxp

(sportfucking ads are different, of course)

irrepressible j0y of j0rdan is positively infectious. either that, or it is snowing today and it is my last of exams.

maybe both.

i’m pretty geeked

It’s a good week! Friends are returning to town one by one, went to a spectacular tapas place on Saturday night followed by drinks at a new tavern; spent last night wrapping presents and writing.

And it’s my second to last work day.

alfred which tapas place

It opened in Wynwood a couple months ago? It’s called Wynwood Kitchen & Bar, a location recently reclaimed from vagrants and crack vials by local artists. Wood, the tavern across from it, has a fantastic patio area.

cool

From Saturday night, feeling frisky with a friend:

i would definitely have the mussels & clams if i went there.

i had sea bass for xmas lunch on saturday and got to make the inevitable “i got that super bass” joke

and tonight i go to my 6th party in 3 days and then i get to sleep!

seems alfred has good taste in friends

I’m the Douglas Sirk of friendship.

does that mean all of your friends dress in glorious technicolor

and their adult children buy them color TVs to keep them away from the gardener.

In a few decades scholars will wonder why despite the hysterical over-arrangement of sets and furniture Jane Wyman was still wan as fuck.

tree trimmer xp

i’m excited about going back home to see family and friends but i definitely don’t like xmas as much as i used to

my bf despises xmas, i can only manage a dazed “whatever.”

valley inversions set in last week. it will basically look and feel like mordor here until february. the smog is so bad i have a perpetual headache. of course, ten minutes up the canyon and it’s clear, sunny and ten degrees warmer. kicking myself for not saving up for a season pass at one of the ski resorts this year.

I love Christmas being over

“a dazed ‘whatever’” = me today, to a t

hey gayz, dr3w says hi, but he won’t be tempted by the sandbox.

& mart1n said he’s read my posts! I apologized.

hi

hi!

i admire dr3w’s willpower

so i have a boyfriend now

i’m wearing his deodorant right now so i smell just like him, it’s kinda nice

tryna take things slow, but damn

maybe you’ll smile more now in your monthly self-pic, sweetie. :)

i probably will!

now get to work on your dreadful taste in music and baseball teams!

morbs!

i kid bcz i love

get to work on liking Ne-Yo.

get to work on liking Ne-Yo.

― Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, December 20, 2011 10:47 AM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink

Even that Champagne Libra Whateverthefuckitwascalled Superhero album?

oh yay, i’m excited about being treated to a fuller range of jordan s facial expressions

hey gays

y’all should read this, it is hilarious:

http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2011/12/gay-art-world-guy-searching-for-rebound-sex.html

3:05 p.m.: Grindr in the back of a cab.

this led me to put on “heart failed (in the back of a taxi)”

3:36, it’s cold, I know I’m growing old

Here I am again,

Early morning cold taxi

I don’t get it.

a quote from one of the Drive songs.

oh, thank God I’ve forgotten those already, cept a little of that “hero” shit.

So, the frenemy IMed me

michael If you need something, I’m here. You’ll always hold a special place in my heart. That said, let’s not fool ourselves that we can be around each other in a healthy, mutually respectful way.

This b/c I wouldn’t let him in my building at 2 a.m. when he texted me “I need you to be a good friend right now,” and other shit, trying to manipulate me into letting him fuck me.

“I NEED YOU TO BE A GOOD FRIEND RIGHT NOW”!!

That is creepy, creepy shit!

Sounds like you weren’t fooling yourself.

meanwhile I’ve listened to Change’s “Hold Tight” six times in thirty minutes.

Jesus Crap, this fucking guy. He’s still IMing me, professing love....love that, when not returned, turns to agony. He’s a walking telenovela.

This would be kind of awesome if I found him appealing in the least. I’d be all over that.

“hold tight” is the best song chic never wrote

Except for “Paradise” and “Miracles.” Damn, that’s a gorgeous album.

my boyfriend is gone for six days now, after having spent the night w/ him for 5 of the last 6

i already feel hella bored

we smoked weed and watched music videos w/ this awesome friend of his, then we had sex (VERY HUMBLE BRAG) so that was fun

i’ve basically spent the last week in a weird state of total buoyancy and happiness crossed with searching for reasons why i’m fucking everything up or in some sort of mirage

sorry for being one those guys itt, idk

Submit to it for as long as the feeling lasts.

thx, al

chicago gays: have you heard anything about this? friend of mine who lives there just posted this on FB:

https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Pink-Panther-Justice-Bureau/342423585771304

also j0rd don’t let the “am i fucking this up?” thing get the best of you (he says, from experience)—it’s tough to be clear-eyed about this sort of thing but alfred’s advice is good

which, speaking of: the martini with a splash of st. germain is my favorite discovery of the week, thanks alfred!

my bf & i sort of talked about it and i’ve talked to some other friends of mine who basically gave me the same advice but the anxiety is still there

anyway, thx

chicago gays: have you heard anything about this? friend of mine who lives there just posted this on FB:

https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Pink-Panther-Justice-Bureau/342423585771304

― silvana mangano, Wednesday, December 21, 2011 5:31 PM (56 minutes ago) Bookmark Permalink

whoa, i lived just around the corner from archie’s for a year and i really liked it. it always struck me as an archetypal chicago corner bar—it’s been around for like 50 years, everyone there is super friendly, they have an old hamm’s sign (“from the land of sky blue waters”), and they have homemade cheese puffs for bar snacks. one of the bartenders would always say hi to me when i saw her around the neighborhood. i never got to any of the queer nights there, though. really sucks to hear about this.

I had not heard of this group or about the incident at Archie’s. Corey lives very near there.

which, speaking of: the martini with a splash of st. germain is my favorite discovery of the week, thanks alfred!

My pleasure! Isn’t this refreshing? The sourness of the gin complements the St. Germain.

Oh wow, that story about Archie’s is terrible. I’m never going there again.

JF is gone, but I’m curled up in his bed with his cat reading a book.

My bf Phillip is watching Myrrha for me while I’m in FL for the week. She apparently slept cuddled next to him—something she never does with me. ;_;

He is chewing on a blanket, which according to Google is calling smurgling? Why are there words for very particular cat behaviours. I don’t understand.

xp Aw. Maybe she just misses your presence and needs more comfort than usual?

actually it’s probably the fact that she sleeps by the radiator at home, and his place doesn’t have one

according to google or according to crazy cat owners?

(yourselves excluded from the crazy bit, obv)

As much as I talk to my cat, I definitely qualify as crazy.

The house I’m abt to move into comes with the most hyperactive kitten I have evah seen and it mews

and snuggles and then darts across the kitchen and dining room at like 300mph

who else is visiting NYC in holiday interregnum besides donna? and river wolf?

How long are they visiting?? My guy and I were planning a trip up to NYC soon

wait when did all you people get boyfriends

uhhhh a week ago!

I’m getting a girlfriend just to shake things up a bit.

I’m getting gay married to Alfred’s girlfriend.

fuck!

can we get these sig others to post here? thx

can we get corey’s cat to post as well?

this is all so fast paced though. maybe i should get a boyfriend.

I will just keep bearding for society matrons

Winter Bearding for Society Matrons: ILX Gays 2011–2012

???

judith, who art thou?

judith is plax

I will be in NYC from the 30th to the 4th! how exciting!

The boy and I are (probably) going to be in NYC from January 2 until the 6th or 7th, but I’m still trying to figure out reasonable accommodations etc. before buying bus tickets.

I’d totally be down for a FAP, but I’m not sure how skittish JF will decide to be. He can be a bit shy.

oh hey.

sarge, i was noticing the other day that you continue to look really fine.

also, morbz and lou and everyone in nyc: i’m sorry. it was a whirlwind weekend, a bit less than 48 hours, and all i could muster was going out and getting wasted with a few of my best friends, then spending the next day recovering, then doing it all again, then eating brunch and leaving.

ha, thanks man

and hey, my boyfriend and i missed each other so much when i was gone it was paaaainnnful, almost. lots of silly text messages. we pulled a “wahoo” in a famous Castro diner the night i got back.

i’ve sent sooo many gay text messages in the two days that my bf has been gone

the boy and i think that we are the only ones who use emoticons. i do the winking one constantly, as in, ;-) (what i really want to say is that i want to bone you right now)

*code*

i’m trying to test my bf’s level of emoticon usage. i can get on some pai mei shit.

he started it with me and i used to be grossed out by it. but then....he converted me.

What is a “wahoo”, tabes?

Assuming it’s not just an expression of glee at seeing someone you have missed.

i’ve sent sooo many gay text messages in the two days that my bf has been gone

****tapping foot*****

Christmas cheer

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=xRM4EWE53ZU

arrrr i wish i had someone to trade gay text messages with

Holiday spirit must be in the air. I think that SCTV clip is funny, too.

merry Christmas, dearie

“Isn’t if funny?! Isn’t it true?!” (I love that his Divine sounds nothing like Divine.)

*cute*

I’m watching “Unsolved Mysteries” clips on YouTube.

sup y’all

bored as fuck at work atm

i bought my bf a shirt, a cardigan and underwear last night for xmas \(o_O)/

seriously some1 stop me if i get too boring

definition of “whirlwind”

woah one week and you bought him that much?

a “wahoo” is another term for “dine and ditch.” we had a good excuse though- they fucked up our order twice, plus our server was a total dick about it. eh.

idk is that a lot? it’s from h&m, so i didn’t spend a ton of money or anything

He is chewing on a blanket, which according to Google is calling smurgling? Why are there words for very particular cat behaviours. I don’t understand.

― lexferenda, Wednesday, December 21, 2011 11:38 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark Permalink

Weird, I didn’t know there was a word for that. One of my cats does this like crazy with velour and chenille fabrics. She checks out mentally, kneads, purrs, and drools buckets. So much drool.

“Flehming” is another cat behavior word. It is when they hold their mouths open when smelling something. It always creeps me out.

my cat drools a lot too.

pulling a “wahoo” in a Castro diner sounds like something you might do under the table

lol.

Do you guys want to have a gay fap + river wolf on the 2–4th? Does that work for Lou and morbs and Donna?

I bought Phi11ip a french folio edition of camus’s l’etranger and some lapsang souchong

and those were the only xmas gifts I bought for anyone this year tbh

no bf here to speak of. and that’s fine with me, tbh. (tho i am glad for those of y’all with newly minted bfs)

also i am only on the east coast til the 28th :( (morbs: if you read this, prob not making it up tonight, sorryyyy)

yeah im really hoping everybody else in my family stuck to the not buying christmas presents deal we made

yeah i have no interest in having a bf either but like i really do wish i had managed to make at least one homo friend here. this is my only regret. i know plenty of lesbians. lesbians love me. i assumed there would be at least a couple gays on my program but i only know for sure about this one impossibly pretty spanish guy who is shy and elusive and who i have never managed to actually speak to. this thread is so weird to read atm. i havent really checked in in a long time and i didn’t realise that you would all be in domestic bliss.

question for NYCers: recommendations on cheap places to stay? are hostels actually decent? google is telling me about this NYC loft hostel which looks reasonably priced and decent albeit, very hipstery. Thoughts?

is that the one in wburg, on like n4th or something?

my friend stayed there & liked it, i think the building is p nice

(i looked it up & i think it is maybe a diff place)

Ok. It looks like we’re coming down the 2nd or the 3rd and only staying for 3 nights/4 days because I can’t talk the stubborn boy into anything. I am totally down for a FAP. Hopefully he can be convinced to join but he’s a little skittish with new people.

If not this time, I will be in NYC for sure in March for EMP and we will FAP then

I’ll come to NYC... some day.

In about 2003 ago I stayed at a hostile at around 104th and Amsterdam Ave that cost me <$30/night. 2 bunk beds per room, clean, web. I looked it up last year and it still existed. Hostiling America or something like that.

Hosteling, not hostiling....