pondering a pup

she is beautiful, she looks a bit like f's dad's dog (rip) who was part tundra wolf/ part malamute and who was very beautiful and gentle and liked to sit squashed up in an armchair with a droll look in his eye.

ominous voicemail from LL

can't get hold of her

99% sure she is going to renege on this whole thing

wtf are we gonna do, we're already totally emotionally committed

Nooo! If she does you should just put in your 30 days notice and find a new place so you can have neko next month like planned (wishful thinking, i know).

omg

LL is legit nutso!~ she has been on ph with poor ytth for like an hour, STILL unclear if it's yay or nay

she is mad that we are paying the boarding fees at the kennel - we have BETRAYED HER TRUST... but it has nothing to do with her! we haven't taken ownnership/guardianship of neko, we just made a donation to n0rsled in order for them to take a good faith commitment. LL is claiming that she never actually said yes we are moving forward, which is a lie.

j looks like he's about to have a breakdown, is pacing entire house

i might throw up

j is a hero - so calm and diplomatic. if i had to speak to her i would be losing my shit right now. she talks nonstop for about 15mins at a time, letting j get in about 10 words.

wtf, consciously or not (and who care which) she is fucking with you. how dare she hurt you both like this, how dare she try to deprive neko of a ready, great home while promoting herself as a dog lover.

i know!!! it turns out it was a major miscommunication, that i tbh i think is entirely her fault BUT i guess we should have known not to do anything till we had it on paper. j is still on ph with her FYI, but it seems he is making good progress...??

i also owe him a huge debt for all this - he is the one who ALWAYS deals with her, which means about an average of 5 hrs ph time p/month.

the problem is: if she says no we will absolutely have to move, bc we know that neko is our dog and we have made a commitment to her, even if it's just in our minds.

i am also extra super pissed bc we had another amazing full day with neko, came home on a high, got ruined by LL

yesterday: had amazing day with neko, came home, invited "good" friends over for celebratory drinks, the woman-half of the friends gave me a bunch of condescending, unsolicited dog "advice", even though they have a rat terrier mix, which is a TOTALLY DIFFERENT KIND OF DOG in all ways to a siberian husky. she was so unbelievably rude and awful about it, and really hurt my feelings (aw emo), that i don't actually ever want to see her again. it made me realise she is always this way, and has been quite rude to me before, but i've brushed it off bc it hasn't really mattered - but someone implying that i don't know shit about taking care of a husky, and that i'm a terrible person for taking the recommendations of the highly experienced rescue ppl we are working with + many authoritative resources... i mean, i am without doubt gonna be the best dog owner in the world, don't try and tell me otherwise or i will fucking end you.

ps sorry this tza thread about beautiful basil has turned into my liveblog of doglife

yes, also she must not be allowed to make the keeping neko or not decision, don't give her any more control over you than she has already. you will find a way. xxp

ok j is a champion of champions and has smoothed over the entire thing - we are moving forward!!!!

whoa, did you guys know i was on the sandbox? i didn't, but i guess i must have registered ages ago. anyway, thanks for everyone's concern about our horrible dog situation. or our amazing dog horrible situation. either way, after 90 minutes of trying to reason with my landlord, she's back on board with "moving the process forward," having forgiven me for being "way out of line," acting in "bad faith," and being an "untrustworthy tenant." and also for "pressuring" her, "taking her out of the decision process," and "only hearing what i want to hear." i'm happy i managed to repair everything, since i wanted to start screaming at her instead, but the bad news is that she sees this process taking 6-8 weeks, which means poor neko has to stay in a kennel for two months while we come to visit her on weekends. but, if this whole thing ends, it will have been worth it. i'm just so incredibly drained by the process, and i don't even have a warm soft dog at me fee to comfort me. (though i do have a warm soft wife, just not at my feet, that would be weird and subjugating.)

i meant to say if this whole thing ends with us taking neko home for good.

omg i am so irate for you guys!!! I would start looking for another place anyway. Dog or not, this kind of manipulation and neediness is such crap. And once neko comes home she could get worse.

And yeah, people are always going to give you unsolicited dog advice. I have learned to just smoke and ignore.

it sounds as if you did great today; i probably would have cried with fury. if the landlady uses email you could write her a bullet point list of what you've mutually agreed to so far, and then do it after each future conversation to keep things straightforward. say something like, it was nice talking to you, here's what we have agreed on, if there's anything here you need to discuss further please let us know. (of course that will trigger a bit more dithering but at least you'll have in writing what is going on.)

i was also thinking that if things fell apart again and you did end up calling her bluff and getting neko anyway she might then go through a protracted dilemma about whether to kick you all out or not and find herself unable to go through with it and her indecision could end up serving you for a change.

Lol autocorrect! *smile and ignore!!!!
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Ytth, i bet your customer relationship management is amazing.

Ytth is the most tactful and diplomatic person I know and amazing at remaining calm and articulate. I would have cried and yelled and told her she was trouble human being, and then we'd be really screwed.

*terrible

I think she is trouble, too, but not the good kind.

LL emailed tonight, after we spent the whole day with neko, and totally reneged: the whole process has just proved "too stressful" and is now adversely affecting her "health".

so now we are moving and the new-house hunt begins tomorrow.

oh ffs

i'm so sorry

yeah it was pretty devastating, not gonna lie - i cried pretty hard for about 2 hours, then ytth came to the rescue with a plan, so i'm feeling better. i guess we always knew she might do this, but after she said 'yes' we figured it was a done deal, just a matter of her getting organized and actually getting us the lease to sign.

Best of luck on finding just the right place quickly for you guys and lovely Neko. I'm sorry it came down to it.

Ugh, I'm so sorry. Hopefully you can find something quickly! <3

basil met my almost seven week old niece today and she adored her! i was so proud! she was on her best behavior and was calm and relaxed and gentle around her :)

Any developments, j?

My coworker impulse bought a boxer puppy this weekend. I have kind of been quietly judging her because i spent MY Saturday volunteering at a doggie adoption event, hanging with four perfectly adorable mixed breed puppies while she dropped $750 on an unregistered pup. Am i just hating because i originally wanted a boxer and am jealous of her adorable dog that everyone at work will inevitably obsess over and love more than basil? Or am i justified in thinking it is dumb to buy a puppy? Btw i love my basil and wouldn't trade her, quirks and all!

i think your hate is well-placed

totally well placed

i try not to be THAT guy (at least not in front of ppl) but i really find adopting from breeders totally objectionable, when there are a) so many dogs that need homes and b) many breed-specific rescue groups.

boxers are totally ugly imo and i'm glad you got basil instead, she is the cutest of them all.

we are still looking for a place - we found something perfect but missed out, saw two great places over the weekend but pretty sure we're not getting either of them. but the good news is that, having found out our predicament, ytth's boss has offered to front the difference for a 20% down payment if we decide to buy, which has opened up another option for us.

also: impulse-buying a $750 dog says a lot (of really bad things) about a person's ability to take of another creature imo

Right! I know they'd been pondering a pup but this was definitely a spur of the moment thing. Not to mention her husband is currently not working. I don't even know where this money is coming from and am beginning to suspect she makes a lot more than i do which just makes me even more of a hater (we are same level on org). And yeah there are like five different boxer specific rescues on this area (I know cause i checked them all out last winter!)

ytth's boss sounds incredible!!! Omg i want to with for him!

Every time i see a husky mix now i think of you guys and i want it to work out so badly!

http://i44.tinypic.com/2qb7pzr.jpg

Oops sideways. Anyway...four of these little guys = my saturday afternoon. So adorable.

yeah his boss is just like... weirdly awesome. he just got a bunch more vacation days bc boss is all "if x is the standard/average number of vacation days in this industry, then i think we should be way above that".

puppies!!!!!!!!!!

up all night to pet

we are getting close... fingers crossed! found a place, stand-alone house - it's really cute, and has some nice little quirky features/lots of character BUT it's not the greatest location for us and it's pretty small. we've had our application approved so now we just need to decide. gonna go back for one more look on thursday but i think we're gonna take it. neko could be with us in less than 3 weeks!

Oooooh!!!!

lmao basil is hungover from her weekend adventures and i forgot that we had an appt with her trainer. She pretty much slept through the whole thing! What a waste of $$$$ :(

Sorry but that is kind awww-lol

We are waiting to hear about a place we looked at today - it's a mile from my work so I could take her every day and she'd never have to be home alone. Fingers crossed!

it's not ~official~ ie we haven't actually signed the lease but... the place is ours as of saturday!!!!!!!!!!!

So excited for you and lovely neko!!!

Hooray!! OMG, so happy for you all!

that's awesome!

(also i hope jerks move into your current place)

apparently poor basil was more than just tired :( she has barely moved our eaten since Monday night. Seems she is having some neck pain. Too much fun? We went to the vet and now she gets a weekend of muscle relaxers and anti-inflammatories. She looks so sad but hopefully the drugs and rest will help her feel better soon.

Oh no ;_;

Get better, Basil! <3

I think she is starting to feel better already :) i probably would too on those drugs!

She has emerged from her crate/bed and is playing with a toy AND she ate dinner :)