Watercooler 0: Nothing Is A Problem For Me

Sorry, Andrew, but in the world of dating, I kinda *do* have a bit more experience than you. I haven't always been a celibate misanthrope.

Dating *is* about getting to know someone, and the quickest and easiest way to get to know someone is to get them to talk about themselves. And from that you can proceed to the stuff you have in common. That's how it *works*.

x-post - Johnny OTM, it's a way of finding something to talk about.

Keep this up and you'll make us mere trolls look bad

D-
must try harder

the D is for Darramouss.
sorry to interrupt, Watercoolants. do continue.

I resemble that remark.

Dating *is* about getting to know someone, and the quickest and easiest way to get to know someone is to get them to talk about themselves.

Oh yes, absolutely. So why not get them to talk about themselves?

And from that you can proceed to the stuff you have in common. That's how it *works*.

Sure, but that seems to me directly opposed to your previous post. Am I missing something?

x-post - Johnny OTM, it's a way of finding something to talk about.

But the thing you're trying to get them to talk about is them?

No, i'm not Darramouss. I think you're grossly underestimating your ability to inspire the hatred of complete strangers.

D- = You are worse than Darramouss. But don't take it to heart.

I am perfectly aware of my unrivaled ability to inspire hatred in strangers.

i much prefer to just try and have a good time than seeing a date as some kind of data mining exercise with speed and efficiency being an issue! see in my ideal date either person will just start talking about anything, interest or not, and the other will listen and respond accordingly, with no agenda like "i'm going to find out this this this and this about you by 9:15 and then i'll tell you how much i like the same thing" because i find that that usually hinders a genuine conversation.

but of course it is not always so straightforward becasue often people go into a date WITH an agenda usually being "I AM GOING TO HAVE TURKED YOU TWICE BY 11:30" but i dunno. i can't really give good advice because i not often go on blind dates and so when i do go on dates and stuff it's usually people who i know want me to turk them by 11:30 anyway.. so it's probably differnet.

maybe the advice is to never go on blind dates unless you're not really that bothered about being turked.

And it's a fuck of a lot better than what was suggested on the site linked to.

We now return you to my crush, already in progress.

But Andrew (Farrell) - good to see you last Friday, sir! Hope you got home safely with yr parcel. Did you see any of teh gig? We started off like Motorhead for the first 5 or 6 songs (according to one of our regular fanz), but ran out of steam a bit for the last few.

I WANT I WANT I WANT

God, I need sleep. What should I have for lunch? I've got £1.62.

Is it like eating toast and spaghetti in bed?
It is if you're doing it wrong.

Literature has all the answers, doesn't it?

Oh why did I drink so much last night? I knew I should have gone home after the gig. Gooblar, I curse you and the PBW and your hangover inducing ways.

Will this hangover ever go away?

Next time after a gig, I'm not going drinking afterwards. Not for all the pretty boys in Canada.

HURRAH though, i am back at the lovely job from tues :) and then i have another one the week after that. lovely lady at temping agency told me lovely things about people saying lovely stuff.

I've got a feeling I'm gonna be here a million years, but I ain't leaving until I've cracked this tricky problem with the Data Profile Co-efficients.

Oh, the crapulent abyss, the chasm of the aftereffects. I think I may still have been drunk this morning when I woke up.

Why do I have to be such a freak? Why can't I just be normal for once in my life? It's not fair. :-(

No.

Pop star boys - GOOD

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I haven't dated anyone for, ooh, years and years and years, but I think if you are struggling to talk to someone and need the pointers of interweb mentalists also not in relationships as a guide for how to hold a conversation, then that's a sign right there that this isn't perhaps the person for you. You will KNOW when you click with someone, when conversation comes easily. Do you struggle this much to become friends with people? The process is pretty much the same.

I am appalling at picking team names in pub quizzes, sorry. I also tend to be quite drunk and laugh heartily at everyone else's amusing efforts before forgetting all about them by the end of the night. Sorry. Anyway, the pubs round our way just have smutty innuendo-laden names, not clever witticisms. (and no, I can't remember any of them)

Actually, Ken sort of said this already, didn't he? This:

i much prefer to just try and have a good time than seeing a date as some kind of data mining exercise with speed and efficiency being an issue! see in my ideal date either person will just start talking about anything, interest or not, and the other will listen and respond accordingly, with no agenda like "i'm going to find out this this this and this about you by 9:15 and then i'll tell you how much i like the same thing" because i find that that usually hinders a genuine conversation.

Seriously, it's not that hard to talk to people! And if you have issues with talking to and dealing with people in general, perhaps you might want to address that before expecting to snare the love of your life over the course of an agenda-laden evening?

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But yeah, you're right, I'm a psycho and a mentalist and have no business even speaking to people in the first place, as I've proved over and over again.

God, I need sleep.

Yes, I'm married. There's a reason I got that way too. But, yeah, as someone who successfully dated someone to the point that we realised that we got on well enough to continue doing this for the rest of my life, I thought I may be in a position to offer advice (and, FYI, not that it's any of your business, I went through a fuckload of disastrous soul-destroying relationships built on desperation, nothing, sex, all manner of doomed-to-failure reasons before this one turned up).

But I guess I'm just a "smug married" in your eyes, rather than someone who learned a bit about how to do this relationship stuff successfully. Sorry for thinking my experience was relevant.

(btw, if people in relationships piss you off so much, why do you want to be in one so much?)

http://www.youtube.com/v/T0tpXbpYR9s

(Morning! Happy December! White rabbits!)