WS 2012 Sandbox: ws in the sand

Z S you are my HERO and I love you forever carry your books home from school do your taxes for free kinds of love. You have just MADE my afternoon!

lol, no problem. but i have to admit that i felt gross making that. gonna take a shower, brb

Genuinely not criticising any individuals on this thread, but just find it really strange and perplexing. Can anyone find me the equivalent of heartthrob dudes, straddling bicycles in their skivvies? I mean, seriously, not that "man pin-ups" calendar thing.

That Ari Graynor shoot I posted is actually less an example of how starlets are sexualized than most - she's portrayed more in the vein of 'it's so hot when my girlfriend lounges around in one of my shirts' and she's stunningly hot but not in a rail-thin model way. Curvy is too often damning with faint praise (or used to describe model-thin women with big boobs), but she legit is.

model thin women with big boobs are legit curvy stop hatin on the way-thin

No, they're thin women with big boobs, jesus, darra. Like what you like but don't be disingenuous about it for chrissake.

milo, I noticed what you say about that model, still would say some things but the intent of the photos but this isn't the place obv as everyone has agreed.

*about the intent of the photos

i felt gross making that. gonna take a shower, brb

Maybe not the best wording itt, tbh.

I noticed what you say about that model

I did too. When I saw the pictures last night I did a double take because her body was a) awesome b) so damn refreshing to see which is both wonderful and incredibly sad at the same time.

Maybe not the best wording itt, tbh.

aahahahahaha

not being disingenuous, boobs are curves?

I like my boobs like my post-punk, angular as fuck.

They're the (only) kinds of curves sexy women are "supposed" to have, that are policed equally as much as how thin everything ELSE on one's body is supposed to be. You, as a dude, will probably think/say, "But all of them are awesome!" but that is not reflected in media.

Noted comedic actor Stanley Tucci

but it's as much policing in another direction to claim a girl with boobs and eg slim hips *can't* be described as curvy- imo, and not disingenuously. There's certainly no inherent value judgement or 'should' involved.

dear god why didn't we make this a new thread

I've only seen him in Devil Wears Prada and Julie/Julia over the last few years, I didn't know what else to call him

and that high-school remake of The Scarlet Letter

Stop defensively mansplaining about how I should feel about the demands on women's bodies. There is value judgment EVERY IOTA OF THIS THREAD and in the whole societal conversation on every aspect of female physical beauty.

Agreed. That said, I really really hate the term "mansplaining" and find it pretty offensive.

OMG I met a female mansplainer the other week! For real! I nearly fell off my chair because it was the first time I'd ever encountered one. I wish there were a different term for it now, but this one will have to do because, well, I'm lazy and I like the shortcut of it.

xp Let me know when you come up for another word for it that you like better.

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I wish there was a better term, believe me. :(

if that's what i was doing i'm sorry? I don't know where i've told you or insinuated what you feel or should feel. My last sentence (just trying to reply to your own use of 'should') in the post was rushed because i'm at work, and if it's clumsy again, apologies.

OMG @ "mansplainer", I feel like my life was a little better five minutes ago when I didn't know the term existed.

The problem is, the "man" in "mansplain" doesn't ~have~ to refer to the male gender, but the inherent assumption of automatic greater knowledge due to unspoken privilege. If you can get all that in a snappy 2-syllable phrase, we're laughing.

There are still people left on ILX that are unfamiliar with the term "mansplaining"? Really? Guess it was a positive thing that Thom's irresistable belly drove me to this thread, in a small way, then.

I mean I understand the concept of what it refers to, but I honestly 100% had never heard the term itself until today.

ditto, thank god

I pretty much hate all words that do that type of thing though, "mansplain", "bromance", "manscaping", like worst trend ever.

Do you hate all neologisms, or just the ones that draw attention to previously unremarked areas of male behaviour?

Definitely somewhere between the two.

definitely a sexist kind of marketing driven application of "man-" to all kinds of things, to make clear that it's ok for men to do it or have it.

but that's not really of the same species as "mansplain"

i.e. I don't hate all neologisms, I just hate "cutesy" (for lack of a better word) ones that are most often used to describe a new cultural trend that really isn't a new cultural trend at all

Fair enough. Because I tend to reserve my hatred for neologisms like "vagazzle" and shit like that - because on your latter count, you know, I just feel a bit "welcome to our world"

Well yeah it just sorta happened that all of the examples that popped into my head were of the, "OMG men do this too" variety.

I'm not sure the concepts of bromances and manscaping and so on were unremarked on before - bromance is just a dumb and conceivably offensive ('it's so not GAY, god no') take on male friendships, isn't it?

bags are for women, men have "manbags"
hair removal is for women, men have to "manscape"

etc.

anything conceivably feminine has to be (semi-jokingly, lest you be led to think seriously about it at all) re-named to be man-suitable.

You know what? I'll make a deal. We'll take manbag and manscape and bromance away if you can get rid of "actress" and "lady doctor" and "female musician" and every other damn ugly phrase that gets applied to women and only women? Kay? x

i'm not arguing with you? i think these terms originate from the same place

fwiw I just posted this on the girls thread as to why the term bugs me a lot

x-post - It just seems to me to imply that it's something that all and only men do which I don't think is actually the case. That's why I was saying that I'd prefer a term like FT was suggesting. One that encapsulates the phenomenon as FT stated above and doesn't seem so damning and exclusive.

Yeah, I kind of feel like that (entirely justified) vitriol is aimed at the wrong people here?

xxxp - I don't see how any of those are akin to neologisms that are designed to make cultural prejudices against being perceived as feminine or gay okay (manbags, etc.). Actress? I don't know how that can conceivably be offensive.

Goole, I don't think these terms actually do originate from "the same place." Or at least, not in the same way?

Because I think that the "lady X" and "-ess" terms come from a place of diminishing and othering women because we can't have or be the ~real~ thing.

While the "Man-" terms - perhaps they come from a marketing perspective? But I guess that is the same place, because the whole reason that men have to have a ~special~ Man-thing rather than just a thing (associated with women) is because the association with ~women~ and ~what women do~ is considered so awful and icky that a dude who wouldn't be caught dead carrying a handbag feels OK carrying a Manbag?

But then that's all that "marketing of masculinity" stuff which comes from the same place of OMG gender panic, so if that's what you mean by "coming from the same place" then yes they are.

Anyway, I really think that someone needs to post a picture of an attractive person quite soon because this is quite a derail. I'm not allowed to post any more Thoms so Pyth or CO, do you have anyone to add?

I never post anyone but Steve McQueen, so you can just imagine another Bullit still here if you like.

"cultural prejudices against being perceived as feminine or gay" = based on the idea that being feminine sucks = sexism

Judging women on their femaleness first (as in the case of "actress") and their ~stuff they do~ second (with a side order of men = real thing, women = weird special lady thing) = also sexism

No, I think that part of me is hibernating or something right now. I can't think of anyone. I guess that hot picture of Paul Newman is my go to but I can't be bothered GISing it now so

HOT PAUL NEWMAN PIC HERE

my fucking head is killing me

Ok here

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