Dear ILE - a plea

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accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:30 (seventeen years ago) link

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Ed (dali), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:31 (seventeen years ago) link

"i don't care about gzeus

-- temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 15th, 2007."
Um...you just proved otherwise in posting that...

Geza T iz tha Rainy G. Toronado (The GZeus), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:31 (seventeen years ago) link

mind blown

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:31 (seventeen years ago) link

Hope not.


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Geza T iz tha Rainy G. Toronado (The GZeus), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:33 (seventeen years ago) link

yeah, julio, I agree. I certainly think I get as much out of ilm as I did then, for instance.

lots of good advise since my first post, from grimly in particular. thinking about it more, it's not 'bullying' which ever annoys me (i'm still not sure i've ever seen any of this, tbh), but the same lame jokes again and again (which i'm hopeful the killfile will sort).

toby (tsg20), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:34 (seventeen years ago) link

Sheesh people, 555 posts and all this was, was a plea to just try being nicer.

-- nathalie (wotwotwo...), February 15th, 2007. (later)

you are wrong!!

-- RJG (RJ...), February 15th, 2007. (later)

No, she's right. What did you think it was

It's Teatime in Buttercup Land (Maaarghk C), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:37 (seventeen years ago) link

Totally agree on the lame jokes front.
ILG in particular(which I posted on for a while because I had just gotten back into games after almost 10 years of apathy...then quit for the most part. ILG I mean, not games) is all about sarcasm, in-jokes, and being sardonic in general.
I don't see how any of that has a place in an open forum. It just leads to cliques instead of actual groups of friends.

"No, she's right. What did you think it was "
Did you take that seriously? It was just a perfect example of what's wrong with the boards currently, and should really just be ignored.
Sarcasm cannot be properly recognised over the internet. It's also rude by nature.
This is why I only use it in private.

Geza T iz tha Rainy G. Toronado (The GZeus), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:41 (seventeen years ago) link

The first post was that, the rest of it wasn't.

xpost

onimo (nu_onimo), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:41 (seventeen years ago) link

You only use sarcasm in private?

onimo (nu_onimo), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:42 (seventeen years ago) link

Sarcasm cannot be properly recognised over the internet. It's also rude by nature.
This is why I only use it in private.

what a fascinating insight, i totally agree.

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:42 (seventeen years ago) link

do you think it's possible to make a plea to just try being nicer?

it wasn't 555 posts, either

crossposts

RJG (RJG), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:43 (seventeen years ago) link

xpost
Yeah, for the most part. I suppose 'private' isn't the best word.
'Among friends or in small groups' is better.
An open forum is no place for it, though.

Geza T iz tha Rainy G. Toronado (The GZeus), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:45 (seventeen years ago) link

if zoe espera or someone other than a lot of people had started this thread, it would have had a bit of a better chance

am sad to read that zoe espera has/had decided staying away/not posting is/was for the best. nothing much to be done, though. if you are upset/annoyed/put off, the only options, really, are (as zoe espera (amongst others) said) to stop posting or start ignoring

RJG (RJG), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:57 (seventeen years ago) link

zoe: so maybe that shows that really what I should do is just contribute and not pay any attention to the badbits.

yes. you should. please do.

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 11:59 (seventeen years ago) link

im pretty down with rjg's idea of eacho of us having our own boardo w/ teh new code.. ie: chaki board, ally board, marcello board, etc. and we can just pick out who we are loving talking at internet to.

chaki (chaki), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:00 (seventeen years ago) link

I imagine it being like myspace

RJG (RJG), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:02 (seventeen years ago) link

But what if there was a CJ The Unruly board and nobody posted on it? My fragile ego couldn't stand the rejection.

C J (C J), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:03 (seventeen years ago) link

i would not post on that broad.

chaki (chaki), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:07 (seventeen years ago) link

Self-moderating individual boards?

Might be a bit of a task logistically, and goes against the idea of One Community, but given the chimerical nature of the latter it's probably what's going to end up happening.

Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:07 (seventeen years ago) link

i was joking, fool. rjg never even had that idea.

chaki (chaki), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:08 (seventeen years ago) link

It's still not a bad idea, though.

Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:11 (seventeen years ago) link

whatever, dude! me and like 5 of my longhair, stoner friends are poiting at the screen laughing at you!

chaki (chaki), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:13 (seventeen years ago) link

well you six all miss out when 'I Love [YOUR_NAME_HERE]' gets rolled out.

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:14 (seventeen years ago) link

and it's clearly the best idea of all time.

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:15 (seventeen years ago) link

I would have to ban myself

mark coleman (lovebug ), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:16 (seventeen years ago) link

I'd probably register a couple of dozen new accounts, and chat to myself all day using different user names so I'd look like I was really popular.

C J (C J), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:20 (seventeen years ago) link

zoe: so maybe that shows that really what I should do is just ... not pay any attention to the badbits.

yes. you should. please do.

Er, no! The problem with the ignore-the-badbits plan is that it leads to everyone squirrelling away into their own threads and boards and effectively abandoning the mainstream to the mercy of the fannies.

nobody - not mods, not admins and certainly not thread-starters - can legislate for other people's behaviour. trying to impose rules of engagement is a complete waste of time.
Ye think? Legislation is all about other people's behaviour! Do you go "oh, hey, lots of muggings in Glasgow. Ach, well, can't legislate for behaviour. If you don't like being mugged, just try and ignore them".

Then when you text your pals to come out, and nobody does because it's the fucking badlands, you mutter "ah, well, natural evolution of the city. If i don't like it, tough."

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:40 (seventeen years ago) link

that is about a city

RJG (RJG), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:45 (seventeen years ago) link

Which is a place where people interact. I'm not even going to start on his "it's just a messageboard" bolloc-- oh wait, I am. It's bollocks.

It may only exist inside computers, and it might be possible to turn it off and walk away, but it's also obviously important and personal to lots of people, and can make them laugh or cry, become sad or happy etc and is filled with lots of other people they value and care about. Why something like that's "just" anything is beyond me.

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:50 (seventeen years ago) link

that is about a city

er, yes. this is ILX. it's totally, totally different. we are all, basically, intelligent people. any true sociopaths can be banned. all the rest is mere irritation.

Er, no! The problem with the ignore-the-badbits plan is that it leads to everyone squirrelling away into their own threads and boards and effectively abandoning the mainstream to the mercy of the fannies.

what fannies? people acting the tool doesn't make them fannies. it just makes them posters who are acting the tool. they've got as much right to post here as anyone else. or do you want it to be a private members' club? :/

if everyone stopped getting so hung up on other people's behaviour, this board would improve no end. like i say: if people have a genuine complaint - eg "i feel i'm being victimised/bullied" - then it's a matter for the mods. but what's happening most of the time is a pile-up of other posters going OOOH THAT'S TERRIBLE SOMEONE GOT ZINGED OOH DEAR IT'S SYSTEMATIC BULLYING I TELL YOU HEY SEE THAT POSTER OVER THERE THEY'RE A RIGHT CUNT. it's just tedious.

you're a site admin; you probably see it differently, and i appreciate that. but you can't control everybody's behaviour. you can try ... but you're going to end up with a very small board indeed.

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:56 (seventeen years ago) link

Why something like that's "just" anything is beyond me

okay: your personal investment in this is obviously way more than mine, and i'm sorry if you find my attitude glib. but i'd say the same about any other social situation, to be honest: it's just a pub/it's just a workplace/it's just a city. pragmatism 101.

i like ILX. i wouldn't post here otherwise. i care about it. i wouldn't have donated to the server fund if i didn't. and i have made a few genuine friends through this board (which is a pleasant surprise, and more than i'd ever expect of an internet forum). but the vast, vast majority of posters are simply acquaintances with whom i have only one real thing in common: we post on ILX. it's, er, just a message board. sorry.

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 12:59 (seventeen years ago) link

what fannies? people acting the tool doesn't make them fannies. it just makes them posters who are acting the tool. they've got as much right to post here as anyone else. or do you want it to be a private members' club? :/

And people mugging people doesn't make them muggers, it just makes them people who are mugging people? They've got as much right to roam the streets as anyone else.

if everyone stopped getting so hung up on other people's behaviour, this board would improve no end.
Q-afw-FT.

it's just a pub/it's just a workplace/it's just a city.
Which comes back to the "ach, fuck it, it's just X, why bother changing it". Yet you're the one who wants to shoot all the people who panic-buy petrol come the revolution. You're going to end up with a very small country.

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:04 (seventeen years ago) link

We should have stuck with housebreakers instead of muggers for our pointless analogies.

onimo (nu_onimo), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

happyslappers

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

faulty rear light on bicycle

Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:07 (seventeen years ago) link

Now, let's get this straight; do we want ILx to be a private housebreakers' club?

Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:08 (seventeen years ago) link

eh? that's the strawiest straw-man i've ever blown down.

1) of course i don't want to shoot people. i might, in sheer frustration, have said something like that (the fact you remember this worries/amazes me). but, you know, although i think there are millions of wankers out there in the world, i have no choice but to respect their right to exist.

2) ILX isn't a microcosm of society. it's mostly intelligent, educated people with an interest in contemporary pop culture. i think, on that basis, it should be pretty much self-regulating. sure, it needs mods for when things get out of hand. but really: what's so bad here that it can't just be ignored? so poster A is being a fanny. big deal. posters B through Z aren't. go hang with them instead!

need to nash; will be late for work.

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

(xpost to stet, natch)

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

Here's an analogy.

There's a bloke who acts like a fanny in every pub ever (sometimes it's me), I still go to pubs. Pubs are still mostly fun. If it gets too serious the fanny is removed, but usually "ignore him, he's a fanny" suffices.

onimo (nu_onimo), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

To stretch the analogy a little more, it'd be gr8 if 90% of people on ILE were pissed.

teh_kit (g-kit), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:12 (seventeen years ago) link

onimo OTFM.

grimly fiendish (simon), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

"Woah, fuck, not drinking in there. It's full of fannies! Lets go have a quiet drink round your place instead"

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Oran Mor vs Mono TS

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Eh, fannies. I just don't like that word.

My best friend in elementary school was Fanny.

nathalie (stevienixed), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:26 (seventeen years ago) link

and she had every right to be

stet (stet), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

i give this meta-thread a 4. where's the blood? where's the momus? when will nabisco unleash a fiery creed from on high? get to work, people!

scott seward (121212), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:52 (seventeen years ago) link

My appetite for internet bunfights has withered away to virtually nothing over the past few years, and my use of ILx has changed accordingly. I do my best to avoid the little teams of zingmonkeys who prowl around making the place "funnier". I wind up on the quieter or more communityish threads (and boards), I like it there more, there's not so much playing to the gallery: there's no gallery. (This is the view correctly ascribed to me by jaymc above.)

The skill needed to get the best (i.e. what I want) out of ILX these days seems to be about identifying where the little islands of civility exist and enjoying them, and trying to forget that the rest of it is there, and so very pish. (This is the view correctly ascribed to me by Keef above).

I used to be able to use ILx differently, and follow conversations about which I knew little or nothing, because the general tone made it a pleasure. That doesn't seem to be the case anymore. So it goes I suppose. Things change, so do I. On those occasions where I see what appears to be bullying, most usually low-level unpleasantness, it reinforces my view that most of ILx is not the place for me to hang out, so I don't. That's what grimly recommends, I guess. Well done me, proper Thatcher's child behaviour.

So, in summary: I got old and less grouchy and I don't have the time or the energy to waste it on fights here, or (for that matter) to try to convince other people that they might like to behave differently. Hats off to anyone who feels like giving it a whirl, though.

Tim (Tim), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:53 (seventeen years ago) link

"Woah, fuck, not drinking in there. It's full of fannies! Lets go have a quiet drink round your place instead"

Or, more likely, another pub? ILX isn't full of fannies (let's call them wankers to avoid offending Nathalie's Fanny). I think of ILX as the pub people go to to avoid the ones full of wankers. It has a better good guy: wanker ratio than most other Internet forums I've been to.

onimo (nu_onimo), Thursday, 15 February 2007 13:59 (seventeen years ago) link

there were a lot of wankers at my school

RJG (RJG), Thursday, 15 February 2007 14:03 (seventeen years ago) link


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