Girls thread cont.

i found a hair blog through pinterest that may have solved some hair issues for me

link plz?

i feel like i have to physically see/sense something irl for it to make an impression - or at least motivate me enough to "file it away for later." which is probably good in some ways, because i'm less prone to impulse internet shopping, but at a bricks and mortar store ... i'm probably their dream customer tbh

tumblr helped me find these gems, and I am super happy about it

http://img3.etsystatic.com/il_570xN.291895195.jpg

those are nice skivvies

do you wear them to goth clubs? please say yes.

well I havent ordered them yet. They have to be custom made... BUT OF COURSE I'LL WEAR EM TO A GOTH CLUB once i get em!

you could wear them anywhere because they are skivvies

julia - hdofblog.com

the girl who writes it is super adorable and reminds a lot of robyn and some other lady ilxors.

anyway, bc i'm sure you're all really interested: my hair is quite fine but lots of it, and bc it's long, all of that is conducive to really flat limp boring hair, and from this blog i learned that i need to TEXTURIZE by just doing a teensy bit of backcombing/teasing at the root of each section and then using this new conical curling wand i got to curl it. the result isn't really curls, but my hair looks more wavy and just "bigger" and it lasts for days. like, today, day 4 of no washing, it should look pretty sad, but it still looks pretty poufy and good. also: she recommends really scrubbing the shit out of your scalp when you shampoo, shampooing twice (first with small amount, then with slightly more, and bc this gets your scalp so much cleaner it gets less greasy, which seems to be working for me.

My very favorite foundation is mousse. I talk about mousse all the time, but I don’t know that I ever get much more specific than saying that it is great for volume. The truth is, mousse is the world’s greatest foundation product. Note: sometimes my clients are shocked to see that I might use two or three handfuls of mousse in their hair. That is when I don’t have time for nonsense (or misbehaving hair).

I like her already. I am a firm believer in mousse. I actually use a foaming wrap spray made for black hair that acts like a mousse but is not as stiff it is awesome. It failed me today though because it was hot on the bus and I was sweating (yes, even my head) and now i'm in flat hair city. Oh well.

Anyway, I'm gonna follow this lady now. Thanks Justine.

I just started using bumble and bumble grooming cream and it is pretty great. I have a crap load of little cow licks going all the way around my hairline that make the hair on one side of my hair flip out and just a bit of the grooming cream makes it not really do that. Instead it makes the cowlicks work to make my hair more poofy and wavy and pretty. I don't even have to use a hair dryer.

Jeff uses that so when I need a little something I use his.

yeah i am def getting on the volumizing mousse band wagon. she also reps for garnier's wonder waves, so i might try that too.

My hair is quite fine but super curly, so it tends to be kinda limp without a good cut and/or product. bumble has a curls-something mousse (cant quite think of the name) that is *awesome*. Their thickening spray is pretty rad too.
Fuckers are $$$ but they're the best products I've found for my hair.

registered 2 days ago to sympathise with VG re the bf/male friends ignoring recommendations thing, and then forgot about it by the time the sandbox activation email arrived.

so, bit late for mentally-composed epic post now, but 1. hi and 2. VG, I sympathise

have been a bit scared of volumising product since my hair was accused of being "bouffy" in high school, but it's a lot more flyaway/frizzy these days, so maybe it's time

oooh the other thing i like about that girl's blog is that she is all FRIZZ IS OK

she is even into actually embracing and encouraging a little frizz

my hair is like my voice - i generally need to reduce its volume

<3

never stop booming, sarahel.

So I am all glitzed up for my work holiday part and not to brag or anything, but I look awesome.

BOUFFANT UP-DO
SWEETHEART NECKLINE + MESH SLEEVES/NECK BODYSUIT
HIGHWAISTED GOLD AND BLACK SKIRT
GIANT PURPLE BELT WITH GOLD BUCKLE
DANGLY EARRINGS
SPIKED GOLD BRACELET
CRAZY ASS BRONZE AND BLUE EYESHADOW

move over sheena easton.

Photograph?

^^^

yeah goddammit, PICS!

This bumble grooming cream sounds ideal
I was reading mindy kaling's book today in urban outfitters (er...) while waiting for a friend who was returning stuff, and in one chapter she's taking about guy style and says bumble and bumble for hair, khiels for face, to which I was like, well, that's pretty limiting and unfair, but she is so funny, and also otm tbh

haha. that was more about complaining about how easy it is to be a together dude than endorsing specific products iirc. at least i hope.

I have heard khiels is friggin awesome for face stuff though. I want to get some moisturizer soon. I've been using aveeno spf and it's aiight.

khiels is just ok

Yeah, I think it's a little overrated for what it is.

I have liked whateer B&B stuff I've used but it's just so $$$.

I think one of the things dudes love from Kiehls is the shaving cream, though, because they had like 3 different specially-formulated gentle blah blah kinds before the whole metrosexual/grooming thing. I think other parts of skin care are way less important to men than shaving.

Just got a really disappointing moisturizer from Kiehls. It's the SPF15 one and I didn't look closely enough before I bought to realize that you're not supposed to use it around your eyes - stings like hell. I like slap-it-on moisturizers.

I really enjoyed supporting Kiehls before they were bought by Revlon or whomever, it was nice to give my money to a family even if they were rich and semi-famous and not exactly starving artists or w/e. That part of the mystique totally worked on me! Then they sold the company (to retire, I think?) and the main store closed for a while, and now they sell more stingy things and their samples police is less liberal.

policy

the samples police

I love my bumble & bumble surf spray. It smells like the beach!

My stylist (and her predecessor) always insists that a B&B conditioner, the volumizing one, is the only conditioner for me so I bought some and I hate it. I like the cheapass Suave coconut better. I love B&B super rich conditioner and the coconut one, though. I just need a heavier conditioner than the person who cuts my hair thinks I do, I guess.

I found out I am having a baby girl, I already had feeling like by week 6 or 8. She is due very close to my birthday, actually has the exact same due date I had but I arrived two days later. It got me to thinking of how I don't want my daughter to be a cookie cut-out of me and I don't think she will but I started to go over my life with a fine toothed comb to try and figure out why, what I want her to know, what I hope she doesn't have to encounter etc...

One thing I hope she finds is female buddies. I was always the girl who had one best girlfriend. The bestie was always just like me and we isolated ourselves from other girls. I preferred guys as friends because they were always straight with me, funnier, more interesting, no fighting, name calling or weirdness ever transpired just fun. In my teen years we all shared a love for vinyl and vintage things. As an adult, males continued to provide a stability in friendships that I rarely found in females.

I have a very small group of female friends who are all part of other very small groups of female friends, very small. I never liked the girly parties, always got made fun of, always got hurt or insulted, bullied. I would like my daughter to have a healthier relationship with females, equally with males. I will try but ultimately she will be who she is. My sister is the complete opposite, has a huge network of females, had like 15 bridesmaids and was in a sorority. I feel in order to cultivate an environment where my daughter can have a chance to form healthy relationships with other little girls, I have to get out there and hang out with other moms? The idea of hanging with a group of women just makes me...ugh! gag.

Congratulations on yr babby!

i'm sorry about this:

always got made fun of, always got hurt or insulted, bullied.

that sucks. but if you approach interacting with other women like this:

The idea of hanging with a group of women just makes me...ugh! gag.

nothing good will likely come of it. women are people, you know, just like you. i don't entirely understand what you're concerned about, wrt your daughter-to-be. i guess it would be nice if you knew some kids for her to play with, but she'll figure that stuff out for herself eventually. definitely i would try not to model an aversion to hanging out with other women. is it that you feel sort of wistful you haven't had more female friends? there's still time to make some.

congratulations, by the way!

I'm pretty sure if you polled the wimmens of ilx, nearly 100% of us would say they were bullied and shut out by other girls in their respective youths. I totally was, girls were horrible to me (boys were too, but y'know, in different ways).

But it's not that hard not to turn out like those people, and once you grow up and get to choose your own friends out of larger circles, you can cultivate people of any sort you like. You don't have to be girlfriends with the same kind of woman forever and ever! Just pick different ones to talk to and make friends with next time!

Be friends with dudes too, by all means, it's not like one is at the expense of the other! But for the love of cheese, enough already about how WOMEN are so hard to be FRIENDS with. You're a woman. I'm a woman. We're friends (probably). See how not-hard that was?!

i think it's more challenging to find the people who will be your good friends than to actually be friends with them.

think other parts of skin care are way less important to men than shaving.

^i use the udder balm on my hands post-climbing fwiw

I would never argue with that, it IS hard to find really fast friends who grow with you over years or decades and who uphold yr trust and give back. And sometimes you have to go looking for them, or really grab them when you see one? Also a big thank you goes out to the internet, because it has brought me A TON of the people I love and who love me.

I'm not even trying to hear this "ugh gag" business. It's hard to find friends no matter what gender you are and if you think a room full of women is more ugh gag than a room full of men, consider this

http://www.senate.gov/artandhistory/history/resources/graphic/xlarge/08_30_05%2815-29-12%29_108th_xl.jpg

the league of women voters has spoken

The idea of hanging with a group of women just makes me...ugh! gag.

i would say that you definitely owe it to yourself to cultivate some friendships with women - not just for your daughter but for yourself as well. we are pretty cool as genders go!

connecting with other moms would be potentially really good for you...there is nothing easy about being a mother and as supportive as they may be, your male friends/partners/etc. will never REALLY know what it's like to give birth and be a mother. and being friends with people with shared experiences will give you access to information and support you may not have had before - recommendations for childcare/doctors/etc in the community, approaches for dealing with difficult child behavioral issues, etc.

i think it also depends where you live, though. i know my mom had trouble making close female friends when she & dad moved to the town where i grew up, which was a lot more conventional and uh, republican than where she had grown up and where my parents had lived previously. and I have at least one friend from college who is married w/kids who lives in a midwestern suburb that regularly feels frustrated and fish-out-of-watery when hanging with the other moms.

Yeah, very possibly. Was true for me when I lived in smaller or more conservative/homogenous places. But then...the internet!

Or there's also the chance to BE the woman you want to be friends with, if that makes sense? Because maybe some other women would like to break out of the mold too but don't see any examples of it? The challenge is to be authentically ourselves, whatever that entails, right? Maybe by showing our own struggles to be authentic, and expressing patience w other women in their struggles, we can make a little space for other women to share, if they choose?