Sandbox Romants: Wooing and Problems

I think they can work, it just takes a lot of trust and communication and people in general aren't very good at the latter one, so most of the time monogamy is just simpler.

Also most people into polyamory are kinda ugly.

Why I that??! I've always wondered.

also monogamy is just simpler

lol

I have a theory that they never got laid enough or enough attention as an adolescent because of said ugliness, and are now making up for it and then some.

Remember how all the kids in marching band used to pork each other? Same thing.

I love you.

fwiw, to me "cheating" is defined by not owning your actions, but concealing them from the person you are "cheating" on. Sure, by owning up to your actions, you may be destroying your relationship with the person you are revealing them to, but to my way of thinking you'd better be fully prepared for that destruction before you decide to jeopardize it in that way. Then, at least, it might be ugly, or stupid, or callous, but it isn't "cheating".

xpost looooooool

I dunno, I'd be fine with my SO porking someone else once in a while. I'd rather it was a group activity, though.

What, Homo II, how do teens who are too ugly to find sexual partners suddenly become attractive enough in their 20s to find lots of them?

Remember how all the kids in marching band used to pork each other? Same thing.

hahahaha

Because the ugly people find each other, via polyamorous mixers, Fetlife, etc., and all fuck each other

what's Fetlife?

http://www.bankaim.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Metlife-Bank-logo.gif

so it's a furry thing?

TLO ROLL CALL

that's the dorky anime fan club rap, right?

Fetlife is a fetish/kink-centric social networking website.

does it have a brony contingent?

I've never heard of Fetlife, I'm not kinky, I don't consider myself polyamorous, I've never played in a marching band (they don't have guitars or keyboards), and I'd like to think I'm not ugly (i've posted my pic here before).

under what name?

Lee597 or whatever number it was. Same display name as I'm using now.

unless I'm really lj

Oh! You're the Leeeeee from Z's thread? Really interested in IUI or a different

person? Still confusing!

No that's Leee not Lee! Different person, but yeah you've got the right guy now.

You have a hat!

It's a toque!

BTW I'm dying to know how her pregnancy is working out. Z, come on in, the sand is fine!

Ohhhhh. You didn't see that update before ILX went down?

I am sure there are some fans of Brony on Fetlife. There's a pretty wide range of people on there. It varies from the sorta kinky S&M-centric to some really dark shit that I try to stay away from.

Thanks to ILX, i'm learning to speak British and Canadian!

No - what did I miss? I'm afraid bad news from the way you put it.

Yes, sad news, but that was some weeks ago now and I'm sure zora has dealt/is dealing w it. Wish her all wonderful things in the meantime.

I didn't log on that weekend, not knowing ILX was going to be down when I returned.

That's just awful - so close.

Just when I thought the US couldn't be any more f%cked up that it is, I learn about UK adoption and artificial-insemination laws; at least infertile women (or those with infertile male partners) can usually try to get pregnant for free in America without massive expenses and repercussions for the donor.

The friend I mentioned in that thread still isn't pregnant after 5 months of trying either. At least it's not costing her much, at least monetarily. It's ravishing her relationship though.

Also most people into polyamory are kinda ugly.

― Homosexual II, Friday, December 9, 2011 7:20 AM (1 hour ago)

This made me lol. Its OTM, for the most part, as well. OKC is full of em.

My ex/bff/housemate N dated a poly woman for a while. He said she constantly "discussed" things, like a state of play, and all the poly people would have meetings, it sounded more like some weird group therapy thing than anything remotely FUN.

I do know some reasonably good-looking people who are into poly! however they are also kind of crazy.

i was gonna say, beyond the ugliness, poly relationships always seem to be more obsessively contractual even than monogamous ones - for probably obvious reasons

how do ren faires fit into this

they're like the poly AGMs, all the breakout groups and committees come back to report on their progress

Hahaha yessss.

I had some geeky drama friends who did the Ren Faire thing a couple of times in HS. The amount of chlamydia they brought back always troubled me. I would have though syphilis was more historically accurate.

eww

they're like the poly AGMs, all the breakout groups and committees come back to report on their progress

― c sharp major, Thursday, December 8, 2011 5:54 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink

lol lol occupy amory

Took my ex out for his birthday last night. His hands started wandering tentatively to my back and knee and his legs kept slipping towards mine. A few months ago I would not have been able to resist that, but last night I didn't have any problem cheerily parting ways with him at the end of the night. Either time is a wonderful healer, or I was just too exhausted to do anything than go back to my own bed. Probably both.

Guys, I'm here. I did post about the miscarriage upthread. To update viz. seeing g-b I did see him and verily the drought was ended, but I'm keeping a return to the fertility clinic in the New Year on the cards, so no official relationship atm.

ljubljana, gosh. Well done!

Yay for the drought being over! :) Hope it's uncomplicated etc.

Zora, I have had many deep thoughts today about whether I should have just gone ahead and ended my own drought last night. I dunno though, I think it would have taken me right back to Square 1 and in our case I don't see any prospect of a renewed relationship (unless his feelings for me totally changed). But that's not the case for all drought-endings with exes, not by a long shot *fondly recalls a number of incidents*

I, over the course of this weekend, did not have ljub's presence of mind with my own ex.

grats