sandbox GAYS

everybody got a beast and a kitten within

just the way it goes

oui contain multitudes

yeah, it was a little harsh, and what i really meant was, "i don't really want to have anything to do with such a person sexually," not interpersonally/friendship wise. so i retract my statement, sorry i'm such a brutish asshole.

that said, just because i don't want to sleep with someone because they can't/won't/are unable to perform certain functions isn't really something that i think is that unreasonable, or un-'sweet.' it's just a reality that certain people have certain sexual desires and needs— saying that i'm some sort of horrible shitbag because i can't sexually deal with someone who can't switch is pretty unreasonable, too, imho. just as unreasonable as i was being ;_;

just sayin.

o whatever, u set yourself up for it with the way you phrased it and u know it. we all know what's what, but there's a way to say things.

like remember when you called me racist bc i don't want to sleep with asian guys? maybe now you know how it feels yo

someone recently told me i have a "bottom personality"

surm, i am sorry, i didn't mean for it to be so unreasonable, and i actually didn't really 'know it' when i phrased it that way, so don't play the 'i know what's in yr head' game with me. just like i shouldn't have played it with you. it's cool, yr an awesome presence, and i didn't mean to demean you.

i'm not playing any game, and i don't feel demeaned. it's all good.

seriously tho, surm, <3 to you.

in other news relating to how this whole thing got started, Mr. Dimitrov has unfriended me. but i can still see everything he posts. thus, he basically unfriended me so that i cannot shut him down in arguments.

mmmmmmmmmmuah

some queers don't like dissent, including the ones who are Democrats.

that deserved a laugh track.

actually wait, i want to ask: do any of you actively unfriend people on fbook? because i just recently started doing so, and man, it feels FUCKING GREAT.

i rly want to, there be some fucktards on there

I do when it's someone I barely know, but I'm too chickenshit to do it to people just because I dislike them.

Heh, "recently started doing so" ;)

I hide people from my news feed with great prejudice. I actually think it's even more satisfying than unfriending. You are, like, actively ignoring them.

yeah, it's like they're there but only if YOU want them. long-tail socializing ftw

i hide people. i've never encountered opinions offensive enough to warrant defriending (on fb). i also like keeping people within contact in case i need them for anything in the future.

it's been apologised for so i shouldn't drag it up again but i'm not really sure when i last read anything as dickheadedly offensive as "those people suck at sex, so i don't want to have anything to do with them"

i had no idea there was, like, an imperative to be versatile! i've never heard of anyone demanding it before

that's not what was apologized for and it isn't offensive to want/not want certain things from a sex partner but it can be more complicated than that sometimes are we done now

yeah i only de-friended someone once and i think i only did it because either FB hadn't developed the hide feature yet or i just didn't know about it

i realize i have been de-friended and i usually understand why: it's often by people who i met once years ago and have made no attempt since to keep up with, or exes of my friends, etc

If I didn't hide ppl from my newsfeed it would be too damn long, since 80% of my 'friends' are younger and lead more interesting lives than I do.

(j/k obv)

it's 10.30pm on a saturday night and i'm massively hungover and it's freezing outside and i do not know whether to get myself together to go to a house party or just flop into bed

That's one grueling hangover, lex -- you mentioned it about nine hours ago!

well it's not in the fullblown stage any more, just...very tired and vacant. bed is sensible, isn't it? i might just go out for a bit

The have-one-drink ethos as a hangover wanes doesn't work for me anymore.

well i've put my contact lenses in now so i'm committed. i am in a nice zen mood which means i am prepared and will be happy with either the party being underwhelming and me coming home in an hour, or the party ending up being one of those that's still going in 10 hours

WORK it

turn on the radio, what do you hear?? 25 cheerleaders doing a cheer!!!!

i've been talking to a guy i met on ok cupid -- i'm optimistic

the party ending up being one of those that's still going in 10 hours

it was one of these

i feel dreadful now

Something marvelous happens when you cross the bar into your thirties: as your tolerance for 10-hour parties decreases, so does the desire to attend them.

(or at best attend them for five or six hours)

I think I attended one for 2 hours last night! Many ILXors and a variety of fun, and introduced myself to a cute blogger (when his bf stepped away).

I was supposed to leave for Chicago today but I awoke with a sore throat yesterday and it's not improving; didn't want to endure a three-hour plane ride, cold, and the rigors of drinking.

bummer. otoh, it's cold in Chicago.

How are my girls?

Listen you.

"Can I ask you really huge favor?"

Fit twink in the locker room complimented my tattoos and we chatted about Cervantes.

Friendly, confident people are so weird! Not in a bad way. But I can't fathom their motives or ways. Would like to be "friendlier." 11 years in the South taught me nothing!

I can occasionally fake being a friendly, confident people

Does it concern you that it might look fake, and therefore weird?

not enough to stop me.

the confidence part is harder.

Liquor = confidence. For better or for worse.

I don't think there has to be a motive (or, at least, a motive as you think of it, i.e. something self-serving). I love being friendly to people and my motive is simply that I enjoy making others smile and stuff, and sure I mean I guess when you dissect
It one could say that my deeper motive is that it makes me feel important or likable or something but idk, I feel like a lot of it is just "hey, I like it when people are friendly to me and I have an opportunity to be that person"

was totally going tongue-in-cheek up there.... I'm enough of an optimist (when it comes to individuals) to usually want to be friendly to ppl, despite what a snake I am on the internets.

You aways make me smile, Stevie!

My life is becoming filled w gay men btw. At the end of the week I am moving into my new place with this too-cute-for-his-own-good 40something hipster artist type (who is maybe a bit in his own world) and we've sort of become each others new platonic gay buddies. There's another guy living there too (the dude's ex and now friend) but he's only there 3 days a week so it'll mainly just be me and my new gay bro. Kinda excited about having a live-in fag to talk about boys and bikes and clothes with. Also he's good at cooking!

And then there's my dude 5c0tt; we've been dating for 3 wks and I feel like in so many ways he's the guy I've been waiting a while for. We hang out almost every day and we're both excited about doing things together and stuff. I really really really like this dude.

xp aw, you too bud!

"Can I ask you really huge favor?"

Yaaaay.

I am moving, with my bf, into a house with another gay next month. I am excited, we haven't had any roommates for five or six years.

Roommates/housemates, either/or.