http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/6104955/Rapist-next-door-alarms-victim
the rapist ACTUALLY SAYS: Crofts told The Southland Times this week he knew his victim's address when he moved next door to her about three months ago, but claimed he had nowhere else to go.
He realised that she felt uncomfortable with him living next door, but he also felt nervous when he saw her because he didn't know if she would ring police, he said.
He had served his time in jail and wanted to live a peaceful life, he said.
"If I can get over it, why can't she? It's past tense."
i just... i can't even
― smoove operator, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:34 (twelve years ago) link
i read that story this morning and it made me cry for her, it's so cruel and unfair.
― estela, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:48 (twelve years ago) link
Oh jesus, that is horrible.
― VegemiteGrrrl, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:52 (twelve years ago) link
Oh my god. Poor woman.
― thejenny, Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:17 (twelve years ago) link
The worst part is that the guy is clearly at a very high risk of reoffending, which just just adds more stress to the situation for the woman.
― smoove operator, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:17 (twelve years ago) link
I hate to say this but I hope she is able to move out & far away quickly before the worst happens. It's difficult to see this ending well for her with the lack of legal recourse or even protection. Also...FUCK I HATE THIS SHIT SO MUCH
― VegemiteGrrrl, Thursday, 8 December 2011 16:37 (twelve years ago) link
Stories like this make me feel like going on a Dexter-style killing spree against rapists.
― Nicole, Thursday, 8 December 2011 16:43 (twelve years ago) link
/The woman has an indefinite protection order in place against Crofts, but the order does not specifically say he could not live beside her./
I don't know anything about NZ law--what would be in this protection order if not anything about proximity? the article even says that he can see into her apt from his!
― rayuela, Thursday, 8 December 2011 16:43 (twelve years ago) link
i know, it's crazy. i don't understand what kind of protection it must be if it doesn't prevent her own rapist from moving in next door.
BUT i hope the flipside of this is that it brings a huge gaping hole to light, within the area of laws that protect and serve victims of sex crimes, and now maybe something will be done about it.
it's really upsetting to me to think how terrible every day must be for her right now.
― smoove operator, Thursday, 8 December 2011 17:23 (twelve years ago) link
can someone link me to the wooing thread? sounds like it'll make me good and angry.
― Homosexual II, Thursday, 8 December 2011 18:33 (twelve years ago) link
OH it is the one I started called Sandbox Romants. Vaya con Dios!
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Thursday, 8 December 2011 18:59 (twelve years ago) link
I found it.
― Homosexual II, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:07 (twelve years ago) link
it gets worse
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/6112403/Rape-victim-harassed-for-years
so he's been harassing her with letters and sending his friends around to torment her, and yet there's nothing the law can do now that he's moving in next door?
― smoove operator, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:38 (twelve years ago) link
getting pretty sick of seeing this condescending, women-hating shit on pinterest
http://images.piccsy.com/cache/images/im-a-girl-172414-500-500.jpg
― smoove operator, Friday, 9 December 2011 00:51 (twelve years ago) link
boo
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 00:53 (twelve years ago) link
that was an "opposite of yay" boo, not a "spookin u" boo
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 00:55 (twelve years ago) link
Jesus fucking Christ.
― Illia Rump (emil.y), Friday, 9 December 2011 01:07 (twelve years ago) link
I do all those things and they are very fun
― Homosexual II, Friday, 9 December 2011 02:39 (twelve years ago) link
i just hate the whole holier-than-thou, i-am-such-a-special-lady, all-other-ladies-who-aren't-like-me-are-whores, attitude.
i think i have been quite good bc i have not posted FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU on every single repin of that stupid poster.
― smoove operator, Friday, 9 December 2011 03:20 (twelve years ago) link
haha I wonder if a Mormon posted it
― you are a baby seal (Abbott), Friday, 9 December 2011 03:29 (twelve years ago) link
i think there must have been some Mormon edict somewhere because all the church ladies i'm friends with on fb are posting every day about what they are thankful for
― sarahel, Friday, 9 December 2011 03:32 (twelve years ago) link
we are so gratefulfor all our many blessings
― you are a baby seal (Abbott), Friday, 9 December 2011 03:32 (twelve years ago) link
I think that creating and reblogging that macro implies maybe those girls *should* do some of those things once in a while, loosen up, have some fun ;D
― her life was changed by (rockandroll), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:11 (twelve years ago) link
Oh i've done those things plenty. lol.
I LOVE pinterest but good god does it have a lot of shit like that on it. Also, religious crap.
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:24 (twelve years ago) link
<3 <3 <3 <3 <3
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:29 (twelve years ago) link
What is a "spookin u" boo? That sounds fascinating.
lol
Boo! Like a ghost would say.
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:31 (twelve years ago) link
Oh lols, I just thought about it and suddenly it clicked. I've been calling ilxors "boo" for so long that I forgot about the whole ghosties and spooks connotation.
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:31 (twelve years ago) link
also thinspiration pictures on Pinterest :P I mostly stick to the DIY & food categories and just ignore the general streams
― her life was changed by (rockandroll), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:46 (twelve years ago) link
Oh yeah I fogot about all the dieting and thinspiration stuff. I think I just sort of skim the general stuff and click on thing when my brain goes "OOOH SPARKLY PRETTY!".
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 14:52 (twelve years ago) link
Me too, pretty much! I think I have done exactly 0 of the things I've repinned. BUT I'm GONNA. I swear!
― her life was changed by (rockandroll), Friday, 9 December 2011 15:00 (twelve years ago) link
I've cooked some things that I've repinned and done one crafty thing but yeah, same here for the most part.
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 15:02 (twelve years ago) link
People on Apartment Therapy and my godawful conservative cousins are too into it, so I've avoided Pinterest out of sheer contrariness
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Friday, 9 December 2011 15:12 (twelve years ago) link
look at tumblr instead, its the greatest
― Homosexual II, Friday, 9 December 2011 15:45 (twelve years ago) link
I don't even know what pinterest is but it sounds atrocious. Avoiding things I don't like has become a real skill.
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 16:04 (twelve years ago) link
It's great, isn't it?!
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Friday, 9 December 2011 16:09 (twelve years ago) link
"No, no thank you. Ah, thank you, but no. No, I'm going to stay home that night. Twitter? Don't mind if I don't! That sounds just lovely...for you."
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Friday, 9 December 2011 16:10 (twelve years ago) link
I actually really really love Pinterest and think it's pretty amazing. I just tune out that stuff like I tune out tons of other offensive and/or annoying things online.
Amanda it's sort of a virtual pin board where you can "pin" links/images in different categories so you can go back to them later. I don't use it nearly as much as I should because.
Here are my boards, for example: http://pinterest.com/enbb
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 16:25 (twelve years ago) link
"I don't use it nearly as much as I should because" - errr no "because".
Yeah I can spend hours looking through hair tutorial pins, DIYs, decor ideas, etc., and it is quite ready to skip the dumb stuff.
― smoove operator, Friday, 9 December 2011 16:36 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah. I just cleaned up my boards and started looking through things and, well, I know how I'm going to be spending the afternoon since I'm already in weekend mode and have p much no work to do.
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 16:39 (twelve years ago) link
yeah pinterest is super fun as long as you have a good visual filter! I am rednotdead, JOIN THE DARK SIDE. you can also find me on tumblr at whistlindicksie. possibly with a g, I forget.
― her life was changed by (rockandroll), Friday, 9 December 2011 17:09 (twelve years ago) link
I don't really like to look for hairdos or home decor -- is it just stuff like that?
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 17:11 (twelve years ago) link
Nah - it's tons of different stuff. There are boards for pretty much . . . everything? Clothes, crafts, health, travel, photography, art, pets - lots of stuff.
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 17:13 (twelve years ago) link
i think i'll just stay here
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 17:40 (twelve years ago) link
Ha I just tried to explain Pinterest this morning and spent a few minutes at lunch telling Jeff about all the ways I dislike/don't get Tumblr.
I like Pinterest in theory but I rarely do any freeform web browsing (just follow links from Twitter or from blogs I already read via Google Reader) so I don't know what I would "pin."
― thejenny, Friday, 9 December 2011 18:28 (twelve years ago) link
well, that's just it: you are looking at everyone else's pins (the analog would be 'tweets') and repinning stuff you like. of all my pins, probably only 10% are 'original' pins i found elsewhere, the rest is all 'repins'.
― smoove operator, Friday, 9 December 2011 18:57 (twelve years ago) link
i don't either? i pretty much cover my bases with a running email to myself that i keep in drafts called "stuff" beyond that i feel like it's just fodder for me being obsessive/hoardy of information (a trait i do NOT want to nurture in myself)
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 19:00 (twelve years ago) link
for instance -- i instantly delete any email from online clothing retailers unless it is a huge 50% off or more sale on something i already wantsure i could find things i like and "save them for later" but then what -- i buy them? eh. would rather just not. sometimes i feel like anything trying to sell me anything is borderline predatory.
― league of women voters, Friday, 9 December 2011 19:07 (twelve years ago) link
SO otm. For me it's most a place for getting new ideas for things i want to make food and craft wise. I like that it's all in once place and now that I've figured out how to pin on my Ipad I will prob do it more. I also like the visual aspect. I repin a lot and that's led to to finding some really cool new sites and ideas. I mean - i totally get why it's not for some people but I've enjoyed it a lot when I remember to use it!
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Friday, 9 December 2011 19:10 (twelve years ago) link