sandbox GAYS

i sure did. nice chap.

Congrats!

I just noticed the last part about...keep co-mingling or something. Maybe it was a Rorschach thing.

xp

i'm sympathetic to the general "thrust" of that "art" "piece" but it's pretty dumb imo. xp

What is c2c?

cheek 2 cheek?

it is "cam2cam"

i know, how terrible

c 2 shining c

can u eve

was hoping for cat2cat

i just know one of these days somebody from my place of work is going to be online

ew cat2cat

killer to killer

i'm still not 100% convinced this is true, but if it turns out that way, i officially have no more use for the castro:

http://mpetrelis.blogspot.com/2011/12/castro-theatre-live-acts-replacing-all.html

my friend that works for SF Film Society says that is false.

yeah, their FB page says it's a false rumor

figured when the OG source was one anonymous "insider"

i had to listen to an ad for mucinex, and it wasn't even true - kinda pissed at petrelis

stevie....uh, yeah, that was kind of embarassing. i like the beginning well enough, but from there....yuk.

congrats on your red furry friend. he sounds rad. will i meet him if we hang out when I'M IN PHILLY FROM THE 13-18??

and in terms of the castro theatre thing, yeah i've heard that's a rumor, too. also, morbz, hole in the wall and powerhouse are still excellent places to go, tho i must admit: th30 and i went to the latter last friday night, and the entire place shimmered with the pale chattering of meth and AIDS, and so we had to leave.

OH... and i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening, no matter the circumstances. plus, alfred, you seem to forget that i only have sex with people i like. or find attractive. or people who are intelligent. and he is none of those things.

i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening

Can we say more than JUST that, please??

rolling sandbox sex lives of people we hate thread 2011

maybe just a "realm":

predilections
behavior
anatomy
bodily functions
disease

jesse:

- he's a bossy bottom who won't top— this, tbh, is a dealbreaker in my book.

- he's not into even more vanilla bdsm. and at this point in my life, i'm rather into bdsm, so that's a dealbreaker.

- he doesn't like cuddling. even a little puppy slave sub like myself likes to cuddle.

there you have it. all from a friend and former housemate who dated DiDi (as we call him) for a couple months.

bossy bottom

oh please god I hope this is a Sweet Pickles character.

Oh -- who are the Chicago gays? I'll be there Sunday-Wed.

Me me! Where are you staying, what are you doing? Is Corey on here? I don't know who's who for sure right now.

T- that sounds terrible. Not into cuddling is terrible. If he's averse to even lite kink, that's not good either. Not sure what I think about being a bossy bottom. Not sure what bossy might mean, but it sounds bad.

Not kissing or cuddling is the biggest nagl of all time IMO. And I'll be in New Haven most of that week but I should be around the 17th and 18th! Though I work both days (at that natural foods store on 4th two blocks below South; have you been?)

Also can someone please explain to me refusing to top? Like I know that people have reasons for not wanting to bottom (physical discomfort, power dynamics/a threat to one's masculinity, etc) which are sometimes shitty (lol npi) but still make sense, but refusing to top is just bizarre. Does it come down to being so fucking selfish that you refuse to do anything that gets other people off if it doesn't get you off too? Like there's no discomfort in topping; at the very worst it just doesn't do anything for you. ijdgi.

My issue with toppings is that about 50% of the time, using a condom makes me lose my erection. This wasn't the case with a long-term partner, but definitely with newer folks.

But never topping is weird. I've been w/ a couple guys who said they had never topped - it's just - how is that possible?

tomorrow's the feast of the immaculate conception!

you know, ppl like what they like.

Make a Venn diagram of bossy bottoms and power bottoms!

and include it in a poetry anthology!

umm hello? people - refusing to top is not always just bc someone doesn't feel like it. for fuck's sake. sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqp_0B3zq1E

The pronunciation manual videos are my new favorite thing on the whole web right now. This one is one of the best.

sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.

The existence of double-ended dildos should itself confirm this.

sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.

yeah and imho, those people suck at sex, so i don't want to have anything to do with them,

Maybe we shouldn't have FB re-friended.

I think u mean suck badly at sex.

umm hello? people - refusing to top is not always just bc someone doesn't feel like it. for fuck's sake. sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.

― surm, Thursday, December 8, 2011 5:03 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink

Really? Is it a psychological thing, like a discomfort in playing a certain role, or is it an actual physical difficulty/inability? Or sometimes both?

it's both. and tbh, i would not want to be associate with somebody who would not want to have anything to do with me bc i may or may not suck at sex.

like, what a fucked attitude. looks like you might be missing out on a lot of good people in the world.

i have had difficulty with sex in the past. i don't pretend to be some kind of casanova. i've only topped once. it's hard for me. i can't drive either. guess i'm lucky i have any friends at all.

i mean, does it bother me? that i'm a 28 yr old man and i've only done that once? yes it does. do i give a flying fuck that you do not want to have anything to do with me bc of it? i'll survive tbh.

my favorite men from the past are the men who have been understanding with me. even on random hookups. a little sweetness goes a long way.

I'm not categorical about any sexual practices except staying safe. If my hookup and I had had a good time before the sweat-and-tears part of the evening, I'll likely overlook any physical awkwardness.

T, that was pretty harsh and it doesn't sound like you thought it through.

I hope I didn't come off as critical bcz my question was one of genuine interest re: something that I knew little or nothing about. And yeah, "strongly dislikes topping" = "bad at sex" is a pretty big generalization to make. I get that versatility can be a really important thing in certain contexts but I wouldn't go so far as to imply that people who don't/can't top are just straight-up bad.

Wd not be surprised if most people think they're not particularly good at sex.

If only they knew how bad people can be.

So has the history of the world for the past twenty years.