Sandbox Romants: Wooing and Problems

i read it and it sounded reasonable but then i re-read it in an owen wilson voice and now i'm slightly dubious.

i remain highly sceptical of emotional outpourings and mawkish gestures due to what happened with that guy who baked me the pie

missed this story, enjoying imagining variations on what happened

man if this was old ILX, I would vote for romantic saxophone's gif to be the background and for romantic sax.mp3 to play forever, for this thread

http://www.youtube.com/v/EBM854BTGL0&autoplay=1

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I may have over-suggested my availability this weekend, unless you'd like to come craft at my house while I paint woodwork red? No? Ah well.

now YOU'RE flaking on me! NOT YOU TOO!!! TO HELL WITH YOU!

j/k <3

The ilx downtime prevented me from being able to rantbitch about a rather unfortunate fooforaw that happened witn an OKC match I started talking to.

- he added me to FB
- in doing this we discovered he knows my housemates current ladyfriend
- he also mentioned N is "a friend of his"
- some time later he'd given up talking to me, I jokingly enquired why, and got informed it is because he hates N, thinks he's an asshole, thinks he treats his ladyfriend like shit, and assorted other crap I dont wanna get into
- the whole thing turned into a massive drama with N, this guy, N's girl, all getting involved and getting upset, and then as A COMPLETE ASIDE N decided to break up with this woman, as well
- dude then BLOCKS ME ON FB for all this. Because HE called MY best friend an asshole?

... I then deleted my OKC profile. Had enough of ridiculous shit like this happening.

Man how the fuck did any of that become *your* problem?

I KNOW RIGHT!? It went from zero to "woah what the hell am I suddenlyin the middle of!?" within about 2 hours one afternoon, jesus fuck. my housemate was embarrased and apologetic and even his ladyfriend was all "what the hell asshole" to her friend (ie the OKC guy), but yea... bloody hell I attract some weird luck.

and you are better off not knowing this guy

my okcupid luck has been: good

but i am taking it really easy+slow tbh, esp as i've been busy with work/life

I'm havng a walk/picnic in the gardens/photography jaunt with the vegan lad tomorrow, so I at least have a bit of romanting going on!

Luck!

how did n/n's ladyfriend find out about this guy's thoughts?

he told her, I think. It was a load of InstaGossip, which was just incredibly childish.

so he can't even bring you into it that way?

what a knob.

Dude FB blocked me after all this before I even met him, so BZZZT.

Just to be clear: it was OKCupid guy who ran this shit, my house mate was a sitting back going "wtf just happened" person as I was.

3rd date with an OKCupid gal went well

nice!

i signed up for this meetup thing to meet new people but my work is having an impromptu happy hour, and one of the ppl going is quite attractive.

ditch the meetup?

otoh, this thing w/cowkr is never gonna go anywhere, so i should probably just not go, right?

but it'll be fun...

help me decide!

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3133/2611318715_1e0db32614_z.jpg?zz=1

haha.

what i should do vs. what i want to do.

http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/174888_146267212113179_1729155_n.jpg

One of these days, I'll catch on immediately that Trayce isn't talking about the Sooner State.

Haha :)

I had a perfectly lovely weekend with veganboy (that looks alarmingly like vengaboy) strolling around gardens, taking pix, Metalocalypse marathon, Mitchell & Webb, then mucking around on the Wii all day today, nice!

metalocalypse and mitchell and webb = dream date city!

Haha I know! I wasnt sure he'd be into either: I've had a dreadful time tryng to work out shared taste with this guy (he loves Blackadder but hates Black Books wtf?) but he loved both shows which made my weekend :)

Fuckin love Metalocalypse. Where is man who aims being like Skwisgar.

'No Crazy Chicks': Eight Red Flags I Learned from Online Dating

See also: Men who refer to women as "females."

The "im a nice guy, why do women only date jerks?" guy is the WORST. I have known a few guys like that, bitter and resentful and full of passive aggresvive insistance that the fact they dont get dates is TOTALLY everyone ELSES fault and NEVER theirs.

See also: Men who refer to women as "females."

I hate this so much.

not to pick at scabs, but that article is really kind of judgy and awful

that article was pretty bad. this one is particularly true though:

Men who list their preferred age range as anywhere from 15 to two years younger than themselves (i.e., the 38-year-old looking for women between the ages of 23 and 36).

i see this SO MUCH.

most of those things really are bad news but kind of obvious? i am guilty of the capitalization carnage (and i'm sure guilty of a bunch of other red flag to most people, such as excessive love of cats).

Men who list their preferred age range as anywhere from 15 to two years younger than themselves (i.e., the 38-year-old looking for women between the ages of 23 and 36).

Is this a sex thing?

The author of the article seemed rather eager to establish that she was only dabbling in online dating and looked upon the whole process from a lofty ironic distance.

She takes this controversial position: "Offline, women are socialized to Be Nice (or at least to be polite and respond to advances)."

in every online dating article ever:

i'm just doing this for purposes of JOURNALISM, guys, swear

not to pick at scabs, but that article is really kind of judgy and awful

She does disclose early on that she is a judgmental bitch.

apparently she lives in my zip code?

i'm a nice guy; i should ask her out

I saw that line about being a judgemental bitch early on in the article and I mentally inserted the unspoken "haha, you see what a good sport I am about it" after that sentence.

Men who list their preferred age range as anywhere from 15 to two years younger than themselves (i.e., the 38-year-old looking for women between the ages of 23 and 36).

Is this a sex thing?

I don't know what you mean by a sex thing? It says to me that they won't consider being partnered up w women their own age, all applicants must range from inappropriately young to "still enough younger than me not to be threatening/to make me look successful for catching a young one."

that's about what i meant. control? sex? somewhere in the nexus of disturbing.

Status, at the very least, and control issues also somewhere between possible and probable.

If I tell you my age bracket on OKC, as a 40 year old, was 27 to 42, is that as much of a problem? (curious)

(I'm not on there anymore fwiw, I find the whole thing pointless tbh)

It doesn't function the same way in reverse, because young men and the public control of their sexuality/fertility have not (generally? ever?) historically been status symbols for older women.

as long as the age bracket at least HAS your own age in it and doesn't dip under 21 it's usually fine.