Sandbox Romants: Wooing and Problems

Yeah this is only semi-rational. Unfortunately I'm not in a position to even do the avoiding part, really.

ok i just got back from a meeting and there are 12(!!!) texts from this person!! i will update after i get through them all.

i'm going to assume that these texts vindicate my initial gut reaction (based off of almost zero evidence, and pretty much a guess, essentially) that the dude actually likes you, and is maybe not so good at noticing that his changing of plans and sporadic communication can be interpreted in many ways other than what he intended.

either that, or these 12 texts will indicate that he's a total psychopath!

*popcorn.gif*

b_g, the thing is that you are also totally dreamy and unless he is blind and stupid he must have noticed that? So ZS probably otm, but on the off chance that he IS blind and stupid, let's you and me make plans for a crafty crafts date instead, because we won't cancel on each other.

this thread is heating up!

b_g, the thing is that you are also totally dreamy and unless he is blind and stupid he must have noticed that?

otm

So ZS probably otm

yep, probably otm, otm

but on the off chance that he IS blind and stupid, let's you and me make plans for a crafty crafts date instead, because we won't cancel on each other.

daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaang!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqIlnF2zjz8

well, it was all really sweet and sincere (i teared up a little?)
here is a quote since i can't "it breaks my heart a little for you to think i would be the kind of person to just phase you out. that's a horrible thing to do to a person and that has been done to me before. i wouldn't dream of putting anyone through it, especially someone i really really like"

and he is just busy working on his kickstarter campaign or something.

now i feel like a jerk for over-reacting.

but laurel i am still down for a dreamy craft date this weekend with a dreamboat like yourself!

that's so great, b_g. tearing up over texts...that man has some skillz.

well, i'm also pmsing so i am probably capable of tearing up at an auto insurance commercial right now tbqh

i do not have PMS and I cried when i saw mickey rooney during the muppet movie, so i mean hey, b_g, a text cd be like gone with the wind to me

"it breaks my heart a little for you to think i would be the kind of person to just phase you out. that's a horrible thing to do to a person and that has been done to me before. i wouldn't dream of putting anyone through it, especially someone i really really like"

and he is just busy working on his kickstarter campaign or something.

now i feel like a jerk for over-reacting.
--bene_gesserit

Take this with a grain of salt from my cold dead heart but even that message would irritate me a bit, like he is putting the blame on you and making you feel like a jerk with no self awareness about why you might have gleaned that from his behavior. Still, that's only one of the messages and again my heart is cold and dead so you know.

If he hasn't produced concrete real explanations why he's flaked out on you that many times, I don't think he should be off the hook.

Yeah, you should insist on a detailed schedule for the last week; times, addresses, numbers to verify, etc...

oh my heart is cold and dead itself. i remain highly sceptical of emotional outpourings and mawkish gestures due to what happened with that guy who baked me the pie. however, i will give him another chance i suppose.

i read it and it sounded reasonable but then i re-read it in an owen wilson voice and now i'm slightly dubious.

i remain highly sceptical of emotional outpourings and mawkish gestures due to what happened with that guy who baked me the pie

missed this story, enjoying imagining variations on what happened

man if this was old ILX, I would vote for romantic saxophone's gif to be the background and for romantic sax.mp3 to play forever, for this thread

http://www.youtube.com/v/EBM854BTGL0&autoplay=1

:[

I may have over-suggested my availability this weekend, unless you'd like to come craft at my house while I paint woodwork red? No? Ah well.

now YOU'RE flaking on me! NOT YOU TOO!!! TO HELL WITH YOU!

j/k <3

The ilx downtime prevented me from being able to rantbitch about a rather unfortunate fooforaw that happened witn an OKC match I started talking to.

- he added me to FB
- in doing this we discovered he knows my housemates current ladyfriend
- he also mentioned N is "a friend of his"
- some time later he'd given up talking to me, I jokingly enquired why, and got informed it is because he hates N, thinks he's an asshole, thinks he treats his ladyfriend like shit, and assorted other crap I dont wanna get into
- the whole thing turned into a massive drama with N, this guy, N's girl, all getting involved and getting upset, and then as A COMPLETE ASIDE N decided to break up with this woman, as well
- dude then BLOCKS ME ON FB for all this. Because HE called MY best friend an asshole?

... I then deleted my OKC profile. Had enough of ridiculous shit like this happening.

Man how the fuck did any of that become *your* problem?

I KNOW RIGHT!? It went from zero to "woah what the hell am I suddenlyin the middle of!?" within about 2 hours one afternoon, jesus fuck. my housemate was embarrased and apologetic and even his ladyfriend was all "what the hell asshole" to her friend (ie the OKC guy), but yea... bloody hell I attract some weird luck.

and you are better off not knowing this guy

my okcupid luck has been: good

but i am taking it really easy+slow tbh, esp as i've been busy with work/life

I'm havng a walk/picnic in the gardens/photography jaunt with the vegan lad tomorrow, so I at least have a bit of romanting going on!

Luck!

how did n/n's ladyfriend find out about this guy's thoughts?

he told her, I think. It was a load of InstaGossip, which was just incredibly childish.

so he can't even bring you into it that way?

what a knob.

Dude FB blocked me after all this before I even met him, so BZZZT.

Just to be clear: it was OKCupid guy who ran this shit, my house mate was a sitting back going "wtf just happened" person as I was.

3rd date with an OKCupid gal went well

nice!

i signed up for this meetup thing to meet new people but my work is having an impromptu happy hour, and one of the ppl going is quite attractive.

ditch the meetup?

otoh, this thing w/cowkr is never gonna go anywhere, so i should probably just not go, right?

but it'll be fun...

help me decide!

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3133/2611318715_1e0db32614_z.jpg?zz=1

haha.

what i should do vs. what i want to do.

http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/174888_146267212113179_1729155_n.jpg

One of these days, I'll catch on immediately that Trayce isn't talking about the Sooner State.

Haha :)

I had a perfectly lovely weekend with veganboy (that looks alarmingly like vengaboy) strolling around gardens, taking pix, Metalocalypse marathon, Mitchell & Webb, then mucking around on the Wii all day today, nice!

metalocalypse and mitchell and webb = dream date city!

Haha I know! I wasnt sure he'd be into either: I've had a dreadful time tryng to work out shared taste with this guy (he loves Blackadder but hates Black Books wtf?) but he loved both shows which made my weekend :)

Fuckin love Metalocalypse. Where is man who aims being like Skwisgar.

'No Crazy Chicks': Eight Red Flags I Learned from Online Dating

See also: Men who refer to women as "females."

The "im a nice guy, why do women only date jerks?" guy is the WORST. I have known a few guys like that, bitter and resentful and full of passive aggresvive insistance that the fact they dont get dates is TOTALLY everyone ELSES fault and NEVER theirs.

See also: Men who refer to women as "females."

I hate this so much.

not to pick at scabs, but that article is really kind of judgy and awful

that article was pretty bad. this one is particularly true though:

Men who list their preferred age range as anywhere from 15 to two years younger than themselves (i.e., the 38-year-old looking for women between the ages of 23 and 36).

i see this SO MUCH.