sandbox GAYS

Fuck it. I don't work tomorrow and don't love anyone. *pours another*

Quick, say something scandalous!

Almost updated my FB with status: "Fully ready to enter my long-deferred hot mess period. Suggestions appreciated."

Damn my grandma for friending me.

i had a lot (3) of cocktails tonight

Good morning!

Eric, I had the same trouble Tuesday morning, after spending Monday night consoling my BFF (women problems, mais oui).

i am very sad, i just want to cry all day in bed but i have to go to work and look professional

this year has all but taken it out of me, i don't know what to do anymore

geez surm, that's a bummer to hear. But there's always something to be done, kid.

you know what, i did do something. i googled. and i have discovered a new terminology for my psychological condition. so that's something.

we love you, surm.

and Eric, it's not Wed night if you're off the next day.

I had 2 beers and a shot at my friend's variety/monologues show, where I sat next to gayble TV star Cole Escola as he prepared his bit, and the last act of the night resulted in some onstage accusations of homophobia. Drama!

i just contacted a "renowned" specialist for help - and now i'm going to smoke a cigarette

You can do it, surm.

:::thanks:::

Surm you are a beautiful bouquet of flowers and if you ever need to talk baout stuff you got my info / don't hesitate.

This dude and I have either hung out or texted/IM'd each other every day since Sunday (when we met). He even biked like 3 miles to come visit me on my lunch break yesterday, and tonight we're gonna watch movies and I might cook him dinner and then we're going to some dance party. I think I'm smitten.

surm, we got your back.

Stevie, it sounds like I don't need to fwd you the info about the upcoming 'bearpig' event at the NY Eagle, then.

thx freddy

psych problems are the worst. sorry, surm. i'm long-term crazy, so if you have any questions maybe i can help.

Stevie, that sounds intense and exciting.

u do Jess? maybe i should IM u sometime

maybe on the book of face

I like that – the Book of Face.

I'm long-term depresso (no diagnosis or treatment till I was 18, but it seems to go back to about 6th grade), with attendant anxieties, esp. social anxiety. The only DSM diagnosis a doc ever shared with me was hypothymia, which is a good shortcut label (basically a chronic, low-grade depression - I think the DSM may have changed the term), though I have a wider range of ups and downs that I don't think are described by that term.

^^ That paragraph reminds me of what I hear from Brits about Americans being very/too open about their psychological health.

thank u for being open j

oh no i don't like to read sad surm. it seems so out of character and not how things should be.

<3 Big Freedia <3

A guy I met in therapy said he first tried to kill himself when he was 9 by lying face down in a puddle. He tried that a few times, he said. Later he tried more effective means. The guy was a mortician.

oh did you go eric?

(also, jesse: cyclothymia?)

Uh, apropos of... Never mind

Oh weird xps don't work the same way in the sandbox.

Rivergbx, it was called hypothymia.

http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/_/dict.aspx?word=hypothymia

No no no! DYSthymia!

I remembered bc Jenny and I joked about dystopia.

In any case, labeling is libeling, but when a term is a meaningful shortcut, it's useful. (see also: feminism)

I totally did go, and I'm absolutely glad I did. Was a little preoccupied with the fact that there were only about 3 or 4 not-white people in the audience, but it was still a great, booty-gyrating show.

yeah my friend (not white btw) said it was great

Minnesota booty battles are o_0

omg I wonder if she did one

I'd think a Minnesota booty battle would involve a pedestrian bottleneck in three feet of snow.

What did she look like? Was she a little thick?

If so, she won the shit out of that battle.

Wtf is a booty battle? "Minnesota booty battle" sounds euphemistic.

nah she is a tiny (5') nigerian gal

I haven't been dancing in nine months; my chassis needs a workout.

Yeah, don't think I saw her on stage, what with Freedia's gyrations.

tabes! are you having a fb article with that guy from that nyt poetry article right now?

fb argument that is

Is table registered here? I just saw some comments of t's go by on the ticker thing but when I tried to click on one, it said it was no longer available.

lol! i saw that too and got kind of excited.

Dude update: we've been seeing each other a LOT. In fact, I think the only day we didn't see each other at all was Tuesday. The dinner/movie night thing was amazing and things are moving super quickly and I feel like we're p much "dating" or something at this point. We've talked about not rushing into a relationship and getting to know each other better first but we've spent a few nights cuddling each other to sleep and it's fucking awesome.

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(em dash test)

hotttt em dash, tanuki

—_—

I've said it before, but the best sex I ever had was in LTRs. In the first one, even after 4 years, evenings and days off were unmitigated priapism time. Like skin-abrading f-fests.

― Sandbox Jesse, Tuesday, December 27, 2011 7:23 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Permalink

how do you make that happen? school/stress/not-actually-living-together-but-may-as-well-be-given-how-often-we-see-each-other-or-sleep-over has been taking its toll.

Well, we lived together and we were not very busy, so that certainly greased the skids, if you will lololaknfnsddf. But also, he had a very strong sex drive and for me, sex improves with familiarity. (I approach sex and music similarly: I don't like *new* music or romance or sex. They start to be really good after they're worn in and I'm comfortable with them. I absolutely hated the supposedly exciting thrills of new relationships.)

In the 2nd relationship it was similar, except that dude had some major baggage w/r/t sex, so things never flourished quite the same.

Anyway, for me it's like what people say about reading the Bible over and over and learning something each time.

So yeh, my advice is be me, I guess.

Unless you were asking how to get the abrasions, in which case, just ditch the lube.

has sarge returned from lovestonedness?

― Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, December 27, 2011 6:41 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Permalink

just now!

Good morning!

Which store was the half head/half sex toys store, J?

Tonight I went to one of our city's fine woman-owned sex toy stores and bought my first grown-up adult toy. I was on the bus home with my gym bag and really, really didn't feel like going to the gym, so I made the bargain that I was either going to go to the fucking gym or buy a decent toy. It was not the most expensive one, but it still seemed $$$$, but I believe that you get what you pay for with these things. I certainly hope so, anyway.

It felt a little weird asking the cute lesbians (a couple, apparently) for assistance and information, but they were helpful and knowledgeable, despite their not having prostates (I assume).

ummm it's on belmont, it's called "igor's dungeon" (lol)

oh wow

Oh god that place. I went there once years ago and the owner (he said he was, anyway) let me have it with some over the top high pressure sales. I think I went there for poppers, and he was like, "NOW THIS HERE [$$$ brand], THAT'S TOP O' THE LINE RIGHT THERE, SEE? ONLY A COUPLE BUCKS MORE AND WORTH EVERY PENNY."

I tried to get away, but he kept selling at me, even hollering across the store at me when he was ringing up (and upselling) the bachelorette party ladies. When I went near the videos, he told me about the promo he was running. At the sex toys, he asked if I had any questions, and commented "NOW THAT ONE THERE, THAT'S REAL POPULAR" whenever I let my gaze linger on an item. Same thing at the novelty items and pipes.

God, that guy.

there was a very nice woman at the counter when i was there

wow, there was a turn.

I guess there isnt even gonna be some sort of NY mini-FAP, huh?

We're getting into town the morning of Jan 3rd and we're around until the evening of Jan 6th, so if you guys decide to do something, I can either try to talk the boy into it, or bail on him for an hour or two to grab a drink.

'fraid i'm not likely to make another NY FAP appearance 'til springtime