Sandbox Romants: Wooing and Problems

ew, more like
http://www.animalcorner.co.uk/wildlife/monkeys/graphics/nwemptam.jpg

^movember winner

I have seen a lot of tv programmes in which mothers are all 'did you know {foo} has two children now, when are you going to meet a nice boy/girl and settle down' but I have never met a person who's said their mother says that.

agreeing w/ ppl who say nah this totally happens, and that Garfield's owner reads like frogbs

I pity the [foo] who has two children now

why do {foo}s fall in love?

forton fears a foo

Lol after reading this thread I'm feeling p good about my sandbox transvestitism*

*real word?

Jesus McKinnon Christ

LOL

i am ready to date a stranger just to see how that works

guys okcupid looks really stupid do i really have to do this

make it a gay date. at the last minute.

i haven't worn my ring for a week and the groove in my finger is still there, i'm sort of enjoying watching it fade and wondering how long it'll take

.....

i dunno i feel guilty for trotting out sad minutiae of sadness but i don't have anybody on hand to bore with this on a daily basis plus it's easier to type it out into a half-void than sit and chew somebody's ear off irl, am doing chirpy blitz spirit there

have been pondering the future possibility of going on a date ever a date...now there's a properly bleak train of thought :-)

ever again i meant

nah it's just hard to know what to say. I'm sorry man.

thx. i think sometimes i just like to think stuff out loud, doesn't have to have a response, doesn't not have to, egotistical fucker that i am. ilx = 10-bob counsellor or something.

a part of me likes starting from first principles, so that's something. am mostly very "what the fuck do i do now?" tho

blue sandboxday thread imo

am toying with it but am busy sorting out my new house and then i think i want blue saterday to be a different thing

you think you have housing troubles, son? i had to remove a crazy cat lady this morning....

i hope things get very good for you and soon, desr nv.

Take your time, NV

Hey kids, remember not to develop a serious crush on someone you work w/ on a daily basis, esp. if they live over 1000 miles away. Because that would be fucking stupid.

Yeah, 'cause crushes are so rational...

i sent an email yesterday to someone at work that i was sorta crushing on. no response yet.

*bites nails*

she probably doesn't even remember who the hell i am. we had lunch in a group setting about a year ago, and she gave me her phone number (i didn't ask for it, i wasn't flirting, and was engaged at the time, so of course i didn't call her or anything)

my only comparative experience to having a powerful crush was the one time i ate half (half!) a tab of acid and proceeded to feel like OMG make it stop OMG make it stop for what seemed like an eternity, hurtling uncontrollably forward in space and time and virtually incapable of steering the ship back in the appropriate direction during a storm of that magnitude.

it can be kinda bad!

i should have had half a tab before sending that email to the work crush person, probably would have been a lot better!

it's hardly a critical juncture though

Goblin Boy is meant to be coming to see me tonight. We're spending the day together tomorrow. I am as desperate for affection as the next aging surfer, and I very much want to see him and get kisses, but can't imagine what good can come of this in the long run and fear I'm just having a post-miscarriage moment of weakness.

Ah what the hell. I'd normally think that gunning for kisses when I don't know what I mean by it is rotten unfair, but this is Goblin Boy, I cba being that sensitive about it.

Dear L___, before I begin, let me just eat half a tab, with the goal of just writing and writing until the effect wears off. *glunk*

So I don't know if you remember me, but last year we...

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there is yet another missing piece in the color puzzle, but given that the puzzle itself is always growing, i couldn't possibly

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i am apart from time and space, but also a part of time and space, and

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i am naked now. i am naked now.

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i am so tired. email me back if you want to have lunch sometime

you forgot the dance break and the crying at the edge of the party

Zora -- just let go and have fun. Do whatever moves you.

why is he called Goblin Boy? does he love the band?

having a huge crush and dropping acid at the same time is probably what sent mr adorable here down the rabbit hole
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_LANuzRARDf4/S6BM6JXcx4I/AAAAAAAAANM/vaNXYS2HdRI/s320/Syd%252BBarrett.jpg

and then he wrote "I really love you, and I mean you!"

and called it Terrapin.

Oh Zora, I missed out on hearing it was a miscarriage after all when ilx was down... so sorry

and then he wrote "I really love you, and I mean you!"

and called it Terrapin.
ha!

"my hair's on end about you" is more along the lines of what i was thinking
(i'm not even sure if those are the right lyrics, but that's what i have been thinking they were all this time so that's what they are now)

(They are, indeed)

Oh, sorry lebateauivre. Careless dumping of information. Yes I lost the pregnancy. It was nasty at the time and hard afterwards, but after a weekend in hospital with a suspected ectopic I was relieved that it was a very straightforward thing in the end. I'll say no more here, it does belong on TMI! I'm bouncing back.

Z S Goblin Boy just is - a goblin. And a boy. A goblin boy in a man's body.

huge lols at zs's acid e-mail, imagining recipient opening outlook to find ten copies of it sent minutes apart

same

frustrating text exchange at 6:30 am this morning with someone i dig but who has been flaking a bunch (second time this week - i have not seen this person in 3 weeks now):

him: This weekend is turning out to be problematic. why don't you call me tomorrow afternoon and then we can plan a day

me: sounds like i should take the hint already i suppose :/

him: huh? what hint?! i really want to see you!

me: well i know that sometimes when one does not want to see someone but does not want to hurt that person's feelings, they may just cancel cancel plans a lot or never be available...which is normal, everyone does this from time to time

*crickets*

oh no! i don't know, it sounds like he really does want to see you!

his words say that but his actions don't! i don't know, i have been very flexible and accomodating but this is the 4th or 5th time we've had plans that he cancelled (and i have not cancelled on him ever). i mean, if you really want to see someone you make it happen, right?

if you really want to see someone you make it happen, right?

Tbf, we don't know why he flaked previously. Do you?

did you ever end up meeting up with him in between all of the flake-outs?

his words say that but his actions don't! i don't know, i have been very flexible and accomodating but this is the 4th or 5th time we've had plans that he cancelled (and i have not cancelled on him ever). i mean, if you really want to see someone you make it happen, right?

i am into this, btw; w/friendships i think there should be an equal, mutual level of initiating contact w/the other person, even just so you don't get to feeling like things are uneven, questioning how the other person feels or w/e. it's not cool to feel like it's on you, & you shouldn't be reduced to feeling like you have to hassle someone into doing something anyway.

we met up between some of the flakeouts, about 4 times total. and we have been in touch via text a lot...and the things he texts me make me think he really wants to hang out, but then, when it comes time to do that, he backs out! i have no idea why he is flaking this weekend, he didn't even give a reason. on monday we were supposed to hang out but he couldn't because he didn't have enough money to come into the city (he lives off metro north) and i offered to split his ticket cost with him but still no dice. i am pretty sure he had to be in the city anyways for a workshop which is why we made plans for that night and he didn't say anything about that being cancelled. this weekend i was supposed to go where he lives and visit him. it is really annoying because like, i have to plan my whole weekend around hanging out with him and he cancels and it's not cool. i have other stuff i could be doing. well, not really but in theory i COULD and it is not very considerate of my time!

seems pretty inconsiderate, if nothing else

also i didn't like how he cancelled and then asked for you to call him the next day. take some initiative, if you are the one that's cancelling!