Dear ILE - a plea

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I have met approx 60 ILXers IRL and liked all but one. Some of the 60 occasionally act dickish online but were far from dickish IRL.

Dr.C (Dr.C), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:19 (seventeen years ago) link

can someone please name any of the intelligent, enriching, worthwhile posters who left because ilx was 'too mean' were ever on ilx?


fixed.

chicago kevin is back in a new york groove (chicago kevin), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:21 (seventeen years ago) link

It's interesting (to me, anyway) because part of me wishes there was some way that you could retain a kind of ownership on threads you start on ILE, and appeal to the mods when people are going off-topic, and so protect the thread and hopefully have it be the kind of conversation you wanted to have,

see I hate this kind of thing. To me the idea of thread "ownership" and making things stick to one person's idea of on-topic seems really non-organic and against the spirit of board like this altogether. I know it's a matter of opinion/perceoption but I hate it when people start acting like spoiled only children when it comes to "their" threads. (not saying that you're doing this accentmonkey)

Ms Misery (MsMisery), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:22 (seventeen years ago) link

i mean it IS unfair because of previous instances such as Calum (who obnoxiously trolled relentlessly and was trolled relentlessly back) and non-NB dudes like Marcello and i suppose Buttez. i'm NOT saying that ILE and ILM didn't already feature petty sniping and vendettas before NB. it's just the difference between having people vs people and what feels like boards vs boards that has changed imo dramatically.

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:23 (seventeen years ago) link

The noise board is like 2% mean zings (except when there's a fit of outrage) while ILE is at least 5% mean zings

jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:23 (seventeen years ago) link

To me the idea of thread "ownership" and making things stick to one person's idea of on-topic seems really non-organic and against the spirit of board like this altogether. I know it's a matter of opinion/perceoption but I hate it when people start acting like spoiled only children when it comes to "their" threads. (not saying that you're doing this accentmonkey)

-- Ms Misery (missmisery7...), February 14th, 2007.

OTM

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:24 (seventeen years ago) link

I guess the mean sniping on the noise board is kept in threads devoted to being mean, rather than allowing it to spill over into UK Watercooler, Poptimism, WDYLL, etc.

jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:24 (seventeen years ago) link

Everybody on ILX has always had a posse! The big difference is that for about 6 months, everyone was in the same posse.

Jesus Dan (dan perry), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Aw, I wish I was here for that!

g000blar (g00blar), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:27 (seventeen years ago) link

threads devoted to being mean

did NB introduce this concept?

was it just an honest approach? taking what already happened on ILE and ILM to a logical conclusion?

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:27 (seventeen years ago) link

did NB introduce this concept?

was it just an honest approach? taking what already happened on ILE and ILM to a logical conclusion?

-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

It was right is everyone's face, Tyler and I just made it visible. It was on the tip of everyone's tongue, Tyler and I just gave it a name.

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:29 (seventeen years ago) link

xp Yes, I think so.

Also Sam OTM about ownership.

jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:30 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, I know, Miss M, I wasn't really advocating it. As I say, I really like the organic way that threads grow and develop, except when they grow and develop in a way that drives off anyone who actually had anything to say.

accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:30 (seventeen years ago) link

You know, I once knew a web community where the moderator threw a hissy fit and threatened to ban a poster just for MENTIONING MY NAME in their .sig (shortly after I had left).

Some people will find a way to perpetuate feuds and things no matter how much others ignore them or remove themselves. Almost anyone can occasionally act dickish. Usually it says more about what is going on in their own lives, than in the life of ILX - until it takes a major blowup to set ILX acquivvering.

This thread itself has revealed just what different views different people on ILX have about ILX. It's certainly been illuminating in that way. I've generally been feeling relentlessly "OTM" to Accentmonkey.

I suppose you're right about the flameculture of NB infecting ILE, Stevem.

masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:31 (seventeen years ago) link

I think ILE should be ditched for nu-ILX. It's run it's course. Have 50 different boards for the subjects that get talked about including one purely for ball-breaking where people can be as nasty as they wanna be. Continuing to try and accommodate all these different attitudes in one place ain't working however noble it may seem on paper. There's already considerable fragmentation on ILE so let's just go the whole hog and be done with it.

this is steve from forever ago and i don't know if it's entirely serious, but, no! to it all.

urghonomic (gcannon), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:31 (seventeen years ago) link

what Trish said.

Dr.C (Dr.C), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:33 (seventeen years ago) link

WRT ownership, Sam otm. And before you accuse the NB of being held to a different standard, we offer everyone a chance to be an argumentative buttheaded asshole.

xpost

Kate, you're probably the most likely to fit in on the noise board of all the people who dislike it!!!

jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:33 (seventeen years ago) link

You know, I once knew a web community where the moderator threw a hissy fit and threatened to ban a poster just for MENTIONING MY NAME in their .sig (shortly after I had left).

There was a board where my name was verboten to the point where accounts were deleted for mentioning me offhand. Funny, after I left (4 years ago?), the community decayed to nothing.

jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:34 (seventeen years ago) link

i've been close to starting a "on this thread we just fucking swear at each other" thread many times, but haven't cos i'm not sure it's not lame and all my threads tank somehow anyway!

urghonomic (gcannon), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:35 (seventeen years ago) link

Funny, after I left (4 years ago?), the community decayed to nothing.

Yeah, ditto.

masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:35 (seventeen years ago) link

YOU TWO WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER

Mr. Que (Party with me Punker), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:35 (seventeen years ago) link

which proves what exactly?


and i don't know if it's entirely serious,

of course it was serious

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:36 (seventeen years ago) link

I have started "call each other out on this thread" threads and no one has ever wanted to use them (except for the general "sand in vagina" thread).

Jesus Dan (dan perry), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:36 (seventeen years ago) link

It's back to the difference between "being the person you are" and "acting the character that you have assumed for yourself here"

M Grout (Mark Grout), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:38 (seventeen years ago) link

of course it was serious

ok, well, again, i think it's a terrible idea. the all-in-together messiness and the friction of ile is its strength, maybe its ONLY strength. thread balkanization is one thing; more and more board balkanization will be the heat-death of the whole enterprise, i'm sure of it.

urghonomic (gcannon), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:39 (seventeen years ago) link

Take that hill on the orders of general sand invagina! (sorry)

M Grout so OTM!

kv_nol (kv_nol), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:39 (seventeen years ago) link

WRT "ownership" it's a tricky subject.

I do think that if a thread has started to discuss (or avoid) a certain specific subject, people should stick to the topic for the most part. If other subjects arise, new threads can come up. (the way that the "Self" thread evolved out of the "dating non-vegetarians" thread, to me, was a very good example of that.)

In a perfect world, one wouldn't need the concept of "ownership" over threads, because people would be reasonable and polite and not drag threads off topic unduly (Something I used to do myself terribly, before I had the 'Cooler thread to corral all my current obsessions into.) or degenerate into personalness. But the world is not perfect, and threads *do* get prematurely atrophied - or unreasonably blown up into hellish conflicts - when it would have been a lot more interesting if they had stuck to their original remit.

masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:40 (seventeen years ago) link

oh god not that again.

people, here, are exactly like how they are, "for real." i think a lot of times they don't even know how, but they are.

urghonomic (gcannon), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:41 (seventeen years ago) link

less zings, more zazz

kingfish in absentia (kingfish), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:43 (seventeen years ago) link

more and more board balkanization will be the heat-death of the whole enterprise, i'm sure of it.

what so there is some sort of ceiling to balkanisation? anymore and the engines cannae take it cap'n? doubt this myself

again all i am advocating is a quicker move towards what started happening 2/3 years ago. logical progression and conclusion. because i don't think this thing has a reverse gear.

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:43 (seventeen years ago) link


I think I can be more myself right here than IRL sometimes.

I'm often more charming, witty, and better looking here.

(Take no notice, I have no Idea what I mean by that, I think)

M Grout (Mark Grout), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:44 (seventeen years ago) link

Lex can you please stop right-wing agenda-seeking with Dan please, it's making you look paranoid and petty. In any case there was probably FAR more casual homophobia in what Ethan and Dom wrote than anything Dan said.

This whole spectacle hasn't really been edifying for anyone especially Lex and Dom. FWIW the post Lex linked to wasn't about Dom getting dumped nor was it about a suicide attempt, but it did paint Dom in a very poor light indeed which is probably why a) he got so enormously pissed off and b) he made up that suicide stuff as an appeal to sympathy and a way of winning a fight.

Many xposts - using the noise board as a scapegoat for everything that's wrong with ILX is disingenous considering the real bitter rivalries stretch back way before that and the noise board was actually set up in the first place to keep this stuff OFF the rest of ILE.

The point is that the people going "ooh you are all being nasty and bullying" and the people going "ooh you people are just being oversensitive" are NEVER going to agree so there's no point in even having this argument.

The problem with zing culture is its BORING. You open any thread and then there's the same four or five posters all zinging each other and you can tell THEY'RE not even finding it particularly entertaining, they're just doing it because they're bored and they can't stop posting. Enrique did it about four posts into this thread with that knackered old Mark C/Pringles meme that surely only the most easily amused can still find funny. It's fucking annoying for the rest of us to have to trawl though as well.

Might I add that I think the turning point for ILX was when the number of posters who didn't know or care about Freaky Trigger exceeded the number of posters who did?)

This is OTM I think, the moment when the sense of cohesive community sort of evaporated and as did any claim to some sort of universal 'ethos' of the boards. And although Ethan asks can someone please name any of the intelligent, enriching, worthwhile posters who left because ilx was 'too mean'? it's pretty clear that the likes of Tom E, Mark S, John D and so forth stopped posting as much (if not left) because the overall atmosphere was something they didn't really want to be involved in.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:44 (seventeen years ago) link

the noise board was actually set up in the first place

so I could edit messages and embed audio after ILE banned me from doing it!

jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:46 (seventeen years ago) link

using the noise board as a scapegoat for everything that's wrong with ILX is disingenous considering the real bitter rivalries stretch back way before that and the noise board was actually set up in the first place to keep this stuff OFF the rest of ILE.

yeah no-one is really saying this. see my post re 'boards vs boards' mentality.

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:46 (seventeen years ago) link

xpost yeah matt otm all around

But the world is not perfect, and threads *do* get prematurely atrophied - or unreasonably blown up into hellish conflicts - when it would have been a lot more interesting if they had stuck to their original remit.

they got exactly as interesting, or not, or atrophied, or blown up, based on what the people participating in them wanted at the time. look, this is a market, not a project. you have to take the occasional shitty outcomes with a little zen grimace and just get on to the next thing, srsly.

urghonomic (gcannon), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:47 (seventeen years ago) link

In any case there was probably FAR more casual homophobia in what Ethan and Dom wrote than anything Dan said.

as i SAID, but i expect nothing less from them so it had less impact.

lexpretend (lexpretend), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:49 (seventeen years ago) link

the mark c pringles zing is a classic and i stand behind it but also it was worth doing because 1) that was the whole point: lol irony DYS using a knackered zing on a(nother pointless thread complaining) about how uncivilized and filled with old zings ilx is nowadays 2) matt you don't like *any* threads on ilx so far as i can tell these days, you're enjoying it possibly even less than me, 3) same goes for mark who's here so little it seems really weird he'd start a thread leaping to the defence of mickey; in fact the only reason he would do so is he doesn't know mickey's whole deal.

temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:49 (seventeen years ago) link

http://img440.imageshack.us/img440/6007/valentinest8.jpg

a_p (a_p), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:50 (seventeen years ago) link

This is not a market. I mean, that's another fundamental difference in opinion. The weight of posting on a topic is not indicative of worth or interest.

There are some subjects on which I'd rather have one post an hour, which was on topic and thought out - than 100 posts in a row of meaningless chatter and nastiness.

masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:50 (seventeen years ago) link

it wasn't worth doing at all. unfunny for at least a year now.

not a week seems to go by on watercooler threads without some massive argument about what can and can't be talked about on them.

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:50 (seventeen years ago) link

the pringles is a zing? I thought it was just a kitten in a can

kingfish in absentia (kingfish), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:51 (seventeen years ago) link

Enrique - I actually enjoy most of the threads I regularly read, which is why I resent them being littered with all this bollocks.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:51 (seventeen years ago) link

But yeah defending Mickey is just plain weird, he's one of the people I genuinely would like to see banned.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:53 (seventeen years ago) link

i don't understand your 'Cooler threads at all Kate. When you first started them I was under the impression they were all about discussing all walks of life (like people supposedly do at office watercoolers) and they were honestly a good read, but over the past year you've morphed them into an unfriendly damp cave where people are only allowed to talk about what you want them to talk about - or they get shouted out.

It reminds me of that Twilight Zone movie where the kid had special powers and turned his house into a cartoon world, and nobody dared say anything against him.

i *might* be exaggerating a little there tho

Ste (fuzzy), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:53 (seventeen years ago) link

the pringles is a zing? I thought it was just a kitten in a can

Sometimes I like to take a kitten in a can, chew it up, and use the resulting paste as a sandwich spread between two intact kittens in cans.

jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:53 (seventeen years ago) link

people not enjoying ILX who insist on sticking around = the real enemy

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:54 (seventeen years ago) link

you can't chew cans!

kingfish in absentia (kingfish), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:54 (seventeen years ago) link

those pringle cans are just cardboard with some foil on them. sure you can.

Ms Misery (MsMisery), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:55 (seventeen years ago) link

i would just like to say that alex, i appreciate yr attempt to introduce some bromance into the proceedings here

ZR (teenagequiet), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:55 (seventeen years ago) link

It reminds me of that Twilight Zone movie where the kid had special powers and turned his house into a cartoon world, and nobody dared say anything against him.

I get this with Jon too, but it's probably 50% projection (and he must surely expect it if not enjoy it).

resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 16:55 (seventeen years ago) link


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