If people contact you via your profile on a dating-related website, does that mean they have a romantic interest in you?

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This particular site isn't exclusively about dating, but you can mark yourself as "available" on your profile, plus they have a similar match percentage thing as OKCupid has. Could there be another reason why some random girls would message you? Maybe they're just looking for friends?

I'm so bad at understanding Internet conventions...

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:51 (seventeen years ago) link

if she includes a gif of her bouncing boobies, then i would think so.

;-)

― nathalie (stevienixed), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:52 (seventeen years ago) link

WHY NOT ASK THEM?

― resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:52 (seventeen years ago) link

Not necessarily. I have started some good conversations based on things in people's profiles, with nary a romantic interest.

(which site btw?)

― Ed (dali), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:53 (seventeen years ago) link

what was the message? i would wager that if they have only seen a profile on the internet and have never interacted with you, any romantic interest will be somewhat tentative.

― temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:54 (seventeen years ago) link

Obviously, but I'm just wondering what's their intention? If we'd exchanged some emails, should I ask them out at some point, or are they just looking for someone to chat with online?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:56 (seventeen years ago) link

WHY NOT ASK THEM?
-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

― temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:59 (seventeen years ago) link

Why don't you talk to them a bit and find out? x-post

How bloody weird - I deleted my OKC account twice, but a friend's bf (who she met on OKC) told me that I'm one of his highest matches (err...) and the thing STILL HASN'T BEEN DELETED!!! And there's all these messages in there. ARgh.

― masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:00 (seventeen years ago) link

WHY NOT ASK THEM?
-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

-- temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)

― It's Teatime in Buttercup Land (Maaarghk C), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:01 (seventeen years ago) link

I find it a bit embarassing to ask someone "Are you interested in me?". If some random girl approaches me in a pub, at least in most of those cases I know what it's about.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:02 (seventeen years ago) link

Tuomas, i don't mean to sound curt here, but if a girl talks to you at a bar, do you worry because there's no-one to ask what her intentions may be? just imagine that instead of being on a dating site you are in a bar, and this girl has come up to you and said 'hi'.

― resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:02 (seventeen years ago) link

I guess that was an x-post. Anyway, my point was exactly that I know how these things work in a pub, but not online.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:33 (seventeen years ago) link

like i say, just act as if you're in a pub situation.

― resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:34 (seventeen years ago) link

you spilled my fucking pint.

― temporary enrique (temporary enrique), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:35 (seventeen years ago) link

This would be good advice for a lot of internet situations. (Including ILX, sometimes, I think.)

― masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:35 (seventeen years ago) link

I couldn't afford to buy a round if it involved the whole of ILX though.

― C J (C J), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:36 (seventeen years ago) link

I do act on ILX as if I'm in a pub e.g. calling someone out if I think they're being a nuisance etc. I'm one of those annoying 'always in there' regulars propping up the bar in that respect.

― resumo impetus (blueski), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 13:37 (seventeen years ago) link

I do think acting as if you're in a pub is good advice for ilxors. I'm definitely not comfortable enough to do that as much as I'd like (something about typing rather than talking), but I think I should aim for it. That said, I'm not generally a nasty person, so.

― g000blar (g00blar), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 14:06 (seventeen years ago) link

WHY NOT ASK THEM?

-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

-- temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)

-- It's Teatime in Buttercup Land

― bohren un der club of gear (bohren un der club of gear), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 18:51 (seventeen years ago) link

Tuomas, post translation and pix plz

― jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 18:54 (seventeen years ago) link

If you suspect someone might be interested in you, do you always have to courage to ask it? Because I'm not always that brave.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:05 (seventeen years ago) link

WHY NOT ASK THEM?

-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

-- temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)

-- It's Teatime in Buttercup Land

-- bohren un der club of gear

― a_p (a_p), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:13 (seventeen years ago) link

"HI, DO YOU LIEK ME?" or any similar line of questioning is likely to result in NO REPLY.

You shouldn't have to ask anything like that since it is implied by the context of the dating site, and any direct question asking if she likes you / is interested in you is going to come off as bizarre & premature. She probably hasn't even made her mind up about you yet! Most likely she is just initiating conversation to see if she wants to actually get to know you!

Relax. There is a flow, go with it.

― elmo albatross (allocryptic), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:14 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, that'd be my answer as well.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Why did you start thread, you ingrate choad?!?!?!?!?!?

― jw (ex machina), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:37 (seventeen years ago) link

YOU'VE BIN HIT BY THE

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"(@ )'(@ )""""*|(@ )(@ )*****(@

THIS IS A SEXYY TRUCK IF U RECIEVE THIS IT MEANS UR FUCKIN SEXY.... IF U GET THIS BACK UR EVEN SEXIERR...SEND THIS TO 10 PEOPLE....IF

― nklshs (nklshs), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:40 (seventeen years ago) link

That dangling "IF" is so suspenseful! "IF" what!?!?!?!?!

― nklshs (nklshs), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:41 (seventeen years ago) link

Ya, what elmo said.

smell sign.

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 19:51 (seventeen years ago) link

....IF YOU DONT YOU WILL HAVE NOTHIN BUT BAD RELASHUNSHIPS AND ALL UR KIDS WILL NEVER NO THEIR DADDYS AND ALSO THEY WILL BE GAY AND HAV OTHER BIRTH DEFEX TOO

― elmo albatross (allocryptic), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 20:16 (seventeen years ago) link

Okay, I have a date next week. I guess it wasn't as difficult as I thought.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 21:36 (seventeen years ago) link

WORDS TO LIVE BY.

― Laurel (Laurel), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 21:37 (seventeen years ago) link

four years pass...

WHY NOT ASK THEM?
-- resumo impetus (n...), February 14th, 2007.

-- temporary enrique (miltonpinsk...), February 14th, 2007. (later)

-- It's Teatime in Buttercup Land

-- bohren un der club of gear

― a_p (a_p), Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:13 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Permalink

― Paco de (Carnitas), Tuesday, 29 November 2011 21:40 (twelve years ago) link

"are you remontically interested in me?"

http://blog.spywareguide.com/upload/2008/01/myspacebot20.jpg

― elks thunder, Tuesday, 29 November 2011 22:01 (twelve years ago) link

I have no memory of what this was about... But I guess I went on a date, since that's what my last post said?

― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:09 (twelve years ago) link

Selective amnesia?

― Tony Hart land (Deep in the Tony Hart land), Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:12 (twelve years ago) link

Nah, I was just having a lot of "action" around that time... Can't remember everything.

― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:14 (twelve years ago) link

That's good

― Tony Hart land (Deep in the Tony Hart land), Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:24 (twelve years ago) link

I have no memory of what this was about...

― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 12:09 (1 hour ago)

guys Tuomas can't even remember his own life, no-one ever rag on him for not knowing something from the world at large again

― The Larry Sandbox Show (sic), Wednesday, 30 November 2011 13:15 (twelve years ago) link

yeah but it's prob easier to google who Barack Obama is than what Tuom was doing in 2007 tbf

― Julie Lagger, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 13:22 (twelve years ago) link

Well, do you remember every date you went on 4 years ago?

― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 13:24 (twelve years ago) link

It's true that I tend forget stuff like that, though. I even forgot to go to my dad's wedding.

― Tuomas, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 13:25 (twelve years ago) link

wow

― Another Suburbanite, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 14:54 (twelve years ago) link

wait waht

― OH NOES, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 15:09 (twelve years ago) link

uh.

― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 30 November 2011 15:19 (twelve years ago) link

Who were you supposed to go with?

― Ou est la showaddywaddy (MarkG oo la showaddywaddy), Wednesday, 30 November 2011 15:21 (twelve years ago) link

He had a lot of dad action that month

― Tony Hart land (Deep in the Tony Hart land), Wednesday, 30 November 2011 15:25 (twelve years ago) link

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