oh no, you were not the source of my confusion!
― horseshoe, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:05 (twelve years ago) link
This guy is just in a reality tunnel so far from mine it's impossible. And I should really be asleep.
― this is what YULE get if you xMASS with us (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:06 (twelve years ago) link
yeah me too but vertigo is on late tonight and i'm considering staying up for it.
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:07 (twelve years ago) link
Don't back down gabbneb! Its your manly tenacity that makes you irresistible to all women of the world.
― Daniel, Esq., Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:07 (twelve years ago) link
Irresistible!
xxp
that's what jimmy stewart said
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:07 (twelve years ago) link
fuck's sake u lose yr topicality to some weak gbebneb zings
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:08 (twelve years ago) link
i refuse to opine on What Women Want as though we're a breed and not a bunch of different people but some of the time some women want men's bodies. are you for real?
I think it's obvious my question was rhetorical. Is it really such a stretch to posit that a dude's relationship potential is a factor in his hotness?
Its your manly tenacity that makes you irresistible to all women of the world.
I think it's obvious what I'd be doing if that were what I were going for.
― illegal crew member (C.K. Dexter Holland), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:09 (twelve years ago) link
I was gonna finish watching If... tonight but I think my head's just in too weird a place now for schoolboy violence.
― this is what YULE get if you xMASS with us (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:09 (twelve years ago) link
What channel is Vertigo on???
― JacobSanders, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:09 (twelve years ago) link
Hi-Fy
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:10 (twelve years ago) link
rté 1
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:11 (twelve years ago) link
2 channels at once is a giddying prospect
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:12 (twelve years ago) link
If only I were on that side of the Atlantic.
― JacobSanders, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:13 (twelve years ago) link
2.15 am fuck that i'm throwing fifa on
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:14 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOEIQKczRPY
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:14 (twelve years ago) link
yeah babel is p boring and might send me to bed a lot sooner
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:15 (twelve years ago) link
babel? u playin as stuttgart or holland?
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:15 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHaA1beOwrY&ob=av3e
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:15 (twelve years ago) link
i only started watching it because gael garcia bernal is in it and i find him v nonthreatening.
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:16 (twelve years ago) link
he is interesting but not annoying imo
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:16 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPGiLsdWZdo&feature=related
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:16 (twelve years ago) link
what are you doing
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:17 (twelve years ago) link
what is julie lagger at now, is this an avant-garde protest against refereeing calls
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:17 (twelve years ago) link
― judith, Tuesday, December 27, 2011 8:16 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Permalink
haha also you have excellent taste
― horseshoe, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:18 (twelve years ago) link
i just like well-dressed gennlemen debating feminism tbh
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:18 (twelve years ago) link
Clár faisnéise ceoil ina mbeidh Neil Young- TG4 fyi
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:18 (twelve years ago) link
gael garcia bernal is threateningly sexy
― JacobSanders, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:19 (twelve years ago) link
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger),
fuck sake but christopher nolan is really struggling for plot at this stage
― twice banned gabbage is death (p much resigned to deems), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:19 (twelve years ago) link
nolan's never met a lady so he doesn't count
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:20 (twelve years ago) link
gael garcia bernal is actually julia roberts side-project
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:20 (twelve years ago) link
no ladies in the "no ladies" thread
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:21 (twelve years ago) link
can't help but feel if anybody from Sailor is still alive they cd bring a decent copyright case against Franz Ferdinand
― i am mad cool cos i don't like coldpay (Julie Lagger), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 01:23 (twelve years ago) link
i have posted twice to the girls-only thread. i don't regret the first one (a link) at all, but the second post (today) was unnecessary shit-stirring directed at a male (though in reference to an earlier discussion on that thread).
at any rate, i like to think i am respectful of everyone, though i suppose it is just like a guy to barge in, no matter how respectfully. so, sorry about that.
and while i do think it's fair for gabbneb to be able to respond when shit is being talked about him, no matter the thread/board, i may have kind of started it on that thread. sorry about that too.
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 02:30 (twelve years ago) link
Ha, the only time I ~really~ wanted to post on the girls thread was when Amanda posted about vocal fry.
― jaymc, Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:25 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmarkhaha!
― league of women voters, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 04:18 (twelve years ago) link
Friend on fb (a grade school teacher) shared this recently.http://togetherforjacksoncountykids.tumblr.com/post/14314184651/one-teachers-approach-to-preventing-gender-bullying-in
― Mr. Farmer, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 14:21 (twelve years ago) link
enjoyable anecdotage
― The Larry Sandbox Show (sic), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 14:46 (twelve years ago) link
No breast checks until post-menopause, though. Would sort of appreciate an exam because when I do a self-check I always feel like I have no idea what I'm looking for.
I took a women's health class in college in which we practiced breast exams on a fake breast that contained lumps. They were pretty clearly lumpy.
― Sandbox Jesse, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:16 (twelve years ago) link
I don't get embarrassed very easily, but after the other two guys dropped, I was the only man in the class, so the breast exam day was kind of awkward, and the day we were each issued a clear acrylic speculum was pretty terrible.
― Sandbox Jesse, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:18 (twelve years ago) link
Do you still have that?
― wore glasses and said things (thejenny), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:39 (twelve years ago) link
I'm wearing it right now.
― Sandbox Jesse, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:44 (twelve years ago) link
(no. i did not move it here from north carolina!)
x-posts while I've written this, sorry...
I didn't get to read that "gender bullying" blog when it was originally posted on the Girl Thread coz I was having Cornish broadband issues. I'm having pretty mixed feelings about it, and struggling to articulate why.
On the most immediate level, obviously it's great that this teacher is doing their best to combat gender bullying, and try to challenge the relentless gender stereotyping. I think the lessons that Tempel is teaching are v v important, and were taught in an accessible way.
But on another level, I think that I really kind of recoil from labels like "gender variance" in the first place. Because it gives that kind of relentless pinkification/commodification of childhood gender a kind of legitimacy which I really don't think it deserves. It's also the horrifying realisation that if I were a child today, I'd be labeled as "gender variant" instead of just being left to get on with mud and frogs. But is that the fault of the label itself, or the commodified bifurcation of childhood which really didn't exert the same kind of pressure when I was that age? Like, I definitely feel like it was more OK to just be a "tomboy" in the 70s when all kids wore dungarees in unisex colours? (Though, that said, young kids certainly found other things to bully me about in grade school - being an English person with a stupid accent in an American school being number one, what, are you going to call that "Accent Variance" now?)
But I often feel like a cranky old person when confronted with the exploding plethora of labels. Like, labels might be good if they give people a name for something they thought was abnormal or "I'm the only one" before - but at the same time, labels are, always, kind of limiting.
I think what this teacher did, for this child, and this class, was great. It's fantastic to teach kids to resist this kind of commodification of gender pressure, and early. But at the same time, it doesn't really get at the root issues. Like, *why* is gender bifurcation being pushed so much harder and so much earlier? Oh, that's right. Because you can sell twice as many toys if you manufacture one pink one and one blue one, instead of like it was back in the 70s, when my brother and I got one unisex toybox we had to share. What is driving this construction of gender - and gender (as opposed to sex) *is* a construct, it varies so much from culture to culture (which, to me, makes a mockery of the idea of "gender variance" - ALL gender varies) - but I know, just because gender is a Construct, that doesn't mean that Constructs don't have power. Like, *money* is a total Construct, but it's one of the most powerful things on earth (hell, even *power* is a total construct.)
For a supposed "feelgood" article, it's raising a lot more questions for me than it answers.
But I am a curmudgeon.
― his eyes suddenly filled with fierce sparkling (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:46 (twelve years ago) link
variating from what.
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:49 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, that is precisely it.
What is this monolithic GENDER from which kids are supposed to be varying? Who made it up? And can I have a word with them?
― his eyes suddenly filled with fierce sparkling (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:52 (twelve years ago) link
And by "a word" I mean "a punch in the nose"?
:D
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:53 (twelve years ago) link
i dunno - i think there might have been a period in the 60s/70s that were more relaxed in terms of gendered toys for kids. I struggle to believe that things were better in that regard in the early 60s and prior.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:55 (twelve years ago) link
I have thought about this article a fair amount since reading it, too.I think that is a good thing.
― Mr. Farmer, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:56 (twelve years ago) link
As far as it raising more questions than it answers. It seems like the only way to get around accepted notions of gender stereotyping are to challenge them.
― Mr. Farmer, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:57 (twelve years ago) link