girl i met more than a year ago on okc has started runnin w/me again
life is good
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Friday, 16 December 2011 19:27 (twelve years ago) link
Those not entirely satisfied with OKC might consider looking into Hot Tech Startup! HowAboutWe, on which I met without too much difficulty someone very nice and reasonably well-matched (though I have removed myself from the dating pool for someone else). I can't really compare the two sites' populations, and note that OKC will probably tell you more about someone upfront, but there may be advantages to a little more mystery and the lighter tone of the pick-a-date focus.
― C.K. Dexter Holland, Friday, 16 December 2011 19:31 (twelve years ago) link
"My insecurities are generally of type XR-81, which is compatible with several common reassurance models"
― his venerable escutcheon, Saturday, 17 December 2011 00:11 (twelve years ago) link
I met more people IRL from OKCupid (1) than from eHarmony and match.com combined.
my personal life has always been more successful when I avoid those sites altogether!
― if you ain't gonna wash it, i ain't gonna eat it, Saturday, 17 December 2011 15:46 (twelve years ago) link
Guys I have a boyfriend and I met him on OKCupid!!
― Stevie :-D, Sunday, 18 December 2011 21:05 (twelve years ago) link
Yay! :-D
― lebateauivre, Sunday, 18 December 2011 21:10 (twelve years ago) link
Yay, the official boyfriend word has been bestowed! :-)))
― ljubljana, Sunday, 18 December 2011 21:27 (twelve years ago) link
congrats stevie!!
― wow gould (step hen faps), Sunday, 18 December 2011 21:46 (twelve years ago) link
Yay! Now both of you get your cute asses back to DC for a visit :)
― quincie, Sunday, 18 December 2011 21:59 (twelve years ago) link
http://i40.tinypic.com/35bf71i.png
― amon, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:35 (twelve years ago) link
lol
― that wiener from Emearlds (step hen faps), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:37 (twelve years ago) link
btw
― Stevie :-D, Sunday, December 18, 2011 3:05 PM (3 days ago) Bookmark
me 2
― v-shasty, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:39 (twelve years ago) link
http://johnaugust.com/2009/wherefore-does-not-mean-wherehttp://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_does_wherefore_meanhttp://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/262200.htmlhttps://www.facebook.com/pages/Wherefore-means-why-Juliet-is-not-asking-where-romeo-is/495187500530
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:40 (twelve years ago) link
x-post - :D
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:42 (twelve years ago) link
met a girl through this recently. went for a drink on friday where scrabble, snogging* and handsiness happened. no word from her since.
well done stevie.
*only word for it. apologies if not to ur taste.
― N1ck, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:46 (twelve years ago) link
okc #1 - 1 date, went okay, got a "thanks but no thanks" email, returned with a "cool, have a nice life" emailokc #2 - 1 date, went really nice, meeting for second date tonight, this one has potential legs methinksokc #3 - 1 date, spent four hours talking at a patisserie. I had stomach flu. She has kids. Made plans to meet after holidays. We are likely gonna be friends. okc #4 - meeting on friday at a barokc #5 - making plans over holiday
seeing two other women somewhat more seriously and ongoing on the irl tip; i need to probably not look at okc anymore.though being told that i am officially hot (and now "eligible to meet hotter people!" by the standards of an impartial computer program was nice. can i assume they do this with everyone?
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:46 (twelve years ago) link
^also feeling good that this is a two week okc history
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:48 (twelve years ago) link
good god, forks
― v-shasty, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:49 (twelve years ago) link
yah gj
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:49 (twelve years ago) link
congrats on y'alls respective bfs btw
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:51 (twelve years ago) link
godspeed, bruh
― v-shasty, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:53 (twelve years ago) link
wallace shawn date was the "have a good life" chick so i got the one rejection out the way quick luckily
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 17:54 (twelve years ago) link
Finding a good match is a totally random act, so the stated premise of okcupid that it can sort out good matches from bad matches is so much shite. But it stands to reason that a wider exposure to random people will increase your odds of finding someone you like who likes you, and obv okcupid can increase your exposure to random people. Voila!
― Aimless, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 18:33 (twelve years ago) link
i hate how every other woman in the world complains about how many messages they get on this site, because it makes me feel like i must be a total loser.
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:25 (twelve years ago) link
Aimless otm. My learning how to project my humor into cyberworld has been the trickiest of exercises the last fourteen years.
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:28 (twelve years ago) link
one friend "i don't even have pictures up and still get like 80 messages a day!"
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:29 (twelve years ago) link
OKC is like a singles bar where it's always five minutes to closingthere's a strange mix of interesting and insaneit rewards prep, good writing, thought and careful approach
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:55 (twelve years ago) link
i think i should totally get a job helping people create their OKC profiles
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:56 (twelve years ago) link
only if you're a bigamist
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:57 (twelve years ago) link
PROTIP: do not answer the questions about anal sex, marriage or if you want to have kids unless you can honestly say no, yes, yes.Otherwise, it is the equivalent of coming up to a person at a club and saying "Hi, I'm interested in fucking you in the ass but never marrying you. You will die alone. Can I buy you a drink?"
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 19:58 (twelve years ago) link
hmm i'll have to check what i answered to those questions but p. sure that answering in that order would only help my chances.
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:01 (twelve years ago) link
PROTIP #2: Make a simple "nice to meet you" letter that you can c+p for minimum rejection damage to your soul. Being clever online or answering/quoting info in someone's profile is creepy and the chances that they'll remember what you're referencing is slim. A simple "Hi, I read your profile and I think we'd get along well. Drop me a line if you'd like to talk" should be fine as long as you add a few light human touches so as to not sound spammy. ANYONE would respond to that by looking at your profile. Then if they like what they see they'll respond. They won't if they don't.
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:02 (twelve years ago) link
i can always spot the form letters and don't reply to those!!
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:04 (twelve years ago) link
PROTIP #3: Make sure there's at least one picture that shows your full body and one shot of your face, smiling. People wanna see that, duh. Don't post the picture if it doesn't look like you on a regular day. Otherwise they're gonna flinch when you meet them.
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:05 (twelve years ago) link
Well, I usually find a way to allude to an album or a book the other guy mentioned. If I'm responding to his profile, it's because he's cute, reads, and listens to music. He should remember what his favorite novel or movie is; most times he's flattered I went through the trouble of mentioning it!
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:06 (twelve years ago) link
bene: probably not good form letters i'd guess
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:06 (twelve years ago) link
i really only reply to people who write me asking a question about something in profile, never the generic ones, or the ones it's obvious they have just plugged a random interest in "so, i see you like ___eating food__. i also like _eating food__. here is my phone number hope to hear from you!"
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:14 (twelve years ago) link
i did a lot of specific question asking and clever conversation starters or whatever and got zero response. Then I just said "hi, you look good and you seem neat; let's talk" and got good response. Go figure.
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:51 (twelve years ago) link
The semicolon = instant hard-on.
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 20:59 (twelve years ago) link
you just forgot protip #1
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:05 (twelve years ago) link
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, December 21, 2011 7:58 PM (1 hour ago)
idk how universally applicable this is
― judith, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:07 (twelve years ago) link
i will totally cop to that being a STRAIGHT MALE PROTIPcoincidentally my fave hardcore band from weehawken is STRAIGHT MALE PROTIP
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:09 (twelve years ago) link
Generalizations from personal experience always problematic. Forks is merely being more confident/assertive in his second approach, rather than trying to persuade why he fits the bill. What's going to work better depends on the recipient.
Oh, and not all girls want to have kids or even get married.
― C.K. Dexter Holland, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:11 (twelve years ago) link
in my experience, all girls want to have kids and get married.ALL OF THEM
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:30 (twelve years ago) link
no of course not. I'm just saying it's a bad opening line to say that you're not into any of those things at all as it broadcasts a degree of unavailability that can put people off
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:31 (twelve years ago) link
I don't want to have kids and/or get married.
Congrats Stevie! :)
I disabled my account so as to fully dedicate my attention between an age-appropriate someone who I met in real life and my youthful workplace crush.
― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 21:59 (twelve years ago) link
having a pet dog someday is the biggest responsibility i aspire to. and even that is many years away!
V_P any update on the work crush situation?
― bene_gesserit, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 22:39 (twelve years ago) link
We spent a magical night at the mall and he bought me a book on men's fashion. Maybe I'll get lucky at the children's Christmas party? :)
― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 21 December 2011 22:52 (twelve years ago) link
and the irl older personage?
― ljubljana, Thursday, 22 December 2011 03:20 (twelve years ago) link
is it a 'notable' author of books who thinks libraries are immoral?
― mookieproof, Thursday, 22 December 2011 03:23 (twelve years ago) link
deactivated my profile last week RIP
Keep it open and check it periodically. You never know.
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 22:53 (twelve years ago) link
pretty sure an ilxor just hit me up on this
awwwwwkkkkwarrrrrrrrrrrdddddd
― Guy with deep but still obviously homosexual voice (brains), Monday, 2 January 2012 03:54 (twelve years ago) link
ha
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Monday, 2 January 2012 05:41 (twelve years ago) link
lately i keep finding myself in occupy DC committees with girls i've had back-and-forths with on here.
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Monday, 2 January 2012 05:42 (twelve years ago) link
okc #2 - spent the night with her on nye; we worked out the particulars for a casual relationship and will be keeping in touchokc #3 - 1 friendly email, think we're gonna be rare communicators... though she made a big show of putting my name in her phone on first date. just think she's too busy to do anything halfway.okc #4 - turned out that, though we never met, we lived on the same street (two doors down!) when i was with my ex and that led to an amazingly awkward conversation about my old block and the frustrations I have with it and jc in general. did not work well. One drink apiece and a plate of deviled eggs later we went different ways, salute.okc #5 - we are maybe doing yoga together today and then getting dinner. she wrote this morning saying she may have to cancel the yoga portion of our show, some ill-defined personal drama on her end.okc #6 - friendly online chat turned pretty filthy after an hour; we spent a fair amount of time editing and critiquing each others profiles. very meta. she gave me her number but i think i'd rather keep this online for the moment.okc #7 - brunch cancelled, lunch midweek is a go. we apparently work on the same block. this small world shit is creepy.
― Dranke, the German Drake Impersonator (forksclovetofu), Monday, 2 January 2012 18:28 (twelve years ago) link