TLO ROLL CALL
― nuhnuhnuh, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:45 (twelve years ago) link
that's the dorky anime fan club rap, right?
― sarahel, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:46 (twelve years ago) link
Fetlife is a fetish/kink-centric social networking website.
― Homosexual II, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:52 (twelve years ago) link
does it have a brony contingent?
― sarahel, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:55 (twelve years ago) link
I've never heard of Fetlife, I'm not kinky, I don't consider myself polyamorous, I've never played in a marching band (they don't have guitars or keyboards), and I'd like to think I'm not ugly (i've posted my pic here before).
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:58 (twelve years ago) link
under what name?
― sarahel, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:59 (twelve years ago) link
Lee597 or whatever number it was. Same display name as I'm using now.
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:00 (twelve years ago) link
unless I'm really lj
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:02 (twelve years ago) link
Oh! You're the Leeeeee from Z's thread? Really interested in IUI or a different
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:02 (twelve years ago) link
person? Still confusing!
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:03 (twelve years ago) link
No that's Leee not Lee! Different person, but yeah you've got the right guy now.
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:04 (twelve years ago) link
You have a hat!
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:04 (twelve years ago) link
It's a toque!
BTW I'm dying to know how her pregnancy is working out. Z, come on in, the sand is fine!
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:08 (twelve years ago) link
Ohhhhh. You didn't see that update before ILX went down?
― ᶘ ᵒᴥᵒᶅ (~curious orange~), Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:08 (twelve years ago) link
I am sure there are some fans of Brony on Fetlife. There's a pretty wide range of people on there. It varies from the sorta kinky S&M-centric to some really dark shit that I try to stay away from.
― Homosexual II, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:09 (twelve years ago) link
Thanks to ILX, i'm learning to speak British and Canadian!
No - what did I miss? I'm afraid bad news from the way you put it.
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:10 (twelve years ago) link
Yes, sad news, but that was some weeks ago now and I'm sure zora has dealt/is dealing w it. Wish her all wonderful things in the meantime.
― OH GNUS (Pyth), Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:16 (twelve years ago) link
I didn't log on that weekend, not knowing ILX was going to be down when I returned.
That's just awful - so close.
Just when I thought the US couldn't be any more f%cked up that it is, I learn about UK adoption and artificial-insemination laws; at least infertile women (or those with infertile male partners) can usually try to get pregnant for free in America without massive expenses and repercussions for the donor.
The friend I mentioned in that thread still isn't pregnant after 5 months of trying either. At least it's not costing her much, at least monetarily. It's ravishing her relationship though.
― Everything else is secondary, Thursday, 8 December 2011 21:27 (twelve years ago) link
Also most people into polyamory are kinda ugly.
― Homosexual II, Friday, December 9, 2011 7:20 AM (1 hour ago)
This made me lol. Its OTM, for the most part, as well. OKC is full of em.
― Leave town with an orange, and pretend you're laughing at it. (Trayce), Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:24 (twelve years ago) link
My ex/bff/housemate N dated a poly woman for a while. He said she constantly "discussed" things, like a state of play, and all the poly people would have meetings, it sounded more like some weird group therapy thing than anything remotely FUN.
― Leave town with an orange, and pretend you're laughing at it. (Trayce), Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:26 (twelve years ago) link
I do know some reasonably good-looking people who are into poly! however they are also kind of crazy.
― c sharp major, Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:49 (twelve years ago) link
i was gonna say, beyond the ugliness, poly relationships always seem to be more obsessively contractual even than monogamous ones - for probably obvious reasons
― Maybe Bartering Will Help (Julie Lagger), Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:50 (twelve years ago) link
how do ren faires fit into this
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:50 (twelve years ago) link
they're like the poly AGMs, all the breakout groups and committees come back to report on their progress
― c sharp major, Thursday, 8 December 2011 22:54 (twelve years ago) link
Hahaha yessss.
― Leave town with an orange, and pretend you're laughing at it. (Trayce), Thursday, 8 December 2011 23:08 (twelve years ago) link
I had some geeky drama friends who did the Ren Faire thing a couple of times in HS. The amount of chlamydia they brought back always troubled me. I would have though syphilis was more historically accurate.
― M. White, Thursday, 8 December 2011 23:27 (twelve years ago) link
eww
― remy bean in exile, Thursday, 8 December 2011 23:28 (twelve years ago) link
― c sharp major, Thursday, December 8, 2011 5:54 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink
lol lol occupy amory
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Friday, 9 December 2011 03:30 (twelve years ago) link
Took my ex out for his birthday last night. His hands started wandering tentatively to my back and knee and his legs kept slipping towards mine. A few months ago I would not have been able to resist that, but last night I didn't have any problem cheerily parting ways with him at the end of the night. Either time is a wonderful healer, or I was just too exhausted to do anything than go back to my own bed. Probably both.
― ljubljana, Sunday, 11 December 2011 15:02 (twelve years ago) link
Guys, I'm here. I did post about the miscarriage upthread. To update viz. seeing g-b I did see him and verily the drought was ended, but I'm keeping a return to the fertility clinic in the New Year on the cards, so no official relationship atm.
ljubljana, gosh. Well done!
― Zora DB, Sunday, 11 December 2011 20:51 (twelve years ago) link
Yay for the drought being over! :) Hope it's uncomplicated etc.
― lebateauivre, Sunday, 11 December 2011 21:06 (twelve years ago) link
Zora, I have had many deep thoughts today about whether I should have just gone ahead and ended my own drought last night. I dunno though, I think it would have taken me right back to Square 1 and in our case I don't see any prospect of a renewed relationship (unless his feelings for me totally changed). But that's not the case for all drought-endings with exes, not by a long shot *fondly recalls a number of incidents*
― ljubljana, Sunday, 11 December 2011 21:46 (twelve years ago) link
I, over the course of this weekend, did not have ljub's presence of mind with my own ex.
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Sunday, 11 December 2011 21:49 (twelve years ago) link
grats
― bloating forecast: ruff swells (p much resigned to deems), Sunday, 11 December 2011 21:52 (twelve years ago) link
o less grats more oof, what with she's leaving forever in 6 weeks
― HOOS aka driver of steen, Sunday, 11 December 2011 22:01 (twelve years ago) link
problem in six weeks
― bloating forecast: ruff swells (p much resigned to deems), Sunday, 11 December 2011 22:02 (twelve years ago) link
My long distance crush has proposed a visit to my place while she takes a long holiday break!Trying to make this work. It all seems pretty good right now but I feel like the rest of the winter after her visit is gonna be difficult.
― Mr. Farmer, Monday, 12 December 2011 16:38 (twelve years ago) link
How did this work out?
I feel ya. I'm in a similar sitch with someone 450 miles away. I think long distance relationships can work when there's a set time that you have to be apart - one year in your case - after which you can be together. But my long-distance crush (much more than a crush actually) won't be able to move anytime in the forseeable future. We're contemplating whether I should uproot myself so we can be together. It's scary; if it doesn't work out I'll be left in an unfamiliar place with nothing.
― Everything else is secondary, Monday, 26 December 2011 00:42 (twelve years ago) link
Is it someplace you would be OK living?
― Sandbox Jesse, Tuesday, 27 December 2011 00:24 (twelve years ago) link
Met a few friends at the bar who were there for a mini-reunion of their fellow drama nerds. Erin told me I should hit on one who'd gone to school with me (Meagan), but I thought she was doing her usual encourage-me-to-hit-on-everyone thing, so I hung out for a bit and then encouraged my friends to relocate to a less-depressing (non-karaoke) spot. And as I'm paying out my tab, Meagan taps me on the shoulder and we start talking and flirting for quite a while - all the while my friends are out of her line of sight giving me shit, and then decide to remind me that we'd all agreed to leave. I didn't even think to get her number, I was so distracted by them making asses of themselves, but we're Facebook friends now at least.
At the other bar I was the object of much scorn for cockblocking myself by not immediately talking to her when told to.
― milo z, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 21:00 (twelve years ago) link
EEIS - Still waiting on her visit, can't come soon enough.There's no certainty that we'll be able to be together after a year, either. It's all very much up in the air. I just know that she's exactly what I am looking for. Rather, the feeling I have when I am with her is what I am looking for. She had a bad year (finance-wise) where she is right now. That seems like a good sign that we may be able to somehow relocate someplace together once the opportunity arises. No way to know for sure.
― Mr. Farmer, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 21:20 (twelve years ago) link
This sort of thing comes in waves, huh? After seeming tentative about it before, my long-distance work crush has apparently made some time for me to visit in a couple of months. Trouble is even if anything comes of it, she has no idea where she'll land, work-wise, and neither do I. :(
― Simon H., Wednesday, 28 December 2011 21:54 (twelve years ago) link
So the beautiful girl mentioned on NY Eve thread has finally replied, which resolves some of the angst but the content of the reply is not exactly what I would like. Beggars can't be choosers?
Anyway, to provide slightly more context (and before I start this might sound like bragging but for tmi reasons, it's very much not) I did actually go home with this girl, and she is a whole lot more than just beautiful, and we got on really well and everything I learned about her between midnight and 9am on Friday wowed the fuck out of me. I'm aware that can still only be so much and I'm sure she's not perfect and I also know better than to pedestalise her. (She also has the same name as my recently deceased cat. Is that weird?)
Still, in her reply she says that her picking me up in the bar and taking me home was out of character because of a recently(ish) ended ltr and she doesn't think it's a good idea to start dating again - in my message I had asked her if she would like to go on a proper date. Given that she mentioned she has dated since the end of that relationship this may well be her letting me down easy in a respectful way but I understand that hadn't gone well and I want to give her the benefit of the doubt. I know I should probably, respectfully, just let it go but is there alternate option or opinion out there? No-one I live with is up to discuss this with, so ilx, please do yer worst.
― N1ck, Monday, 2 January 2012 00:59 (twelve years ago) link
are there other options btwn 'start properly dating' and 'never seeing each other again' iyho
― u know my homes' methods, plies them (p much resigned to deems), Monday, 2 January 2012 01:18 (twelve years ago) link
She isn't explicitly offering any but I'd certainly take them if there were. Not sure if I should suggest the hanging out and getting to know each other as friends with clear, delineated boundaries etc, if that's even a real thing, if it is how I'd go about mentioning it and if doing so would just be opening myself up to more potential angst.
Haven't actually been angsty like I was earlier for years. it's shit.
― N1ck, Monday, 2 January 2012 01:35 (twelve years ago) link
i was probably thinking more along the lines of friends with possible view to dating, tbh- i'd agree that a clearly staked-out 'just friends' option wouldn't be likely to help you with the girl problem tbph.
kind of 'start not-properly dating' or s/t
― u know my homes' methods, plies them (p much resigned to deems), Monday, 2 January 2012 01:45 (twelve years ago) link
Do people do that? Is it something someone who doesn't want to date might be receptive to w/ someone who has clearly expressed a desire to date? (tbqh I'd probably be willing to skip the dating bit entirely but I'm an idiot like that)
― N1ck, Monday, 2 January 2012 01:52 (twelve years ago) link
well, i mean if she doesn't want to 'date' then how might she feel about you two just seeing each other
this is the problem with ppl letting ppl down gently, ime- if she's not interested romantically you'd be a sight better off knowing that, possibly in writing so's you could remind yrself in moments of weakness.
i dunno what you mean by skipping the dating bit but if you're thinkin about proposing my advice is to leave it just yet
― u know my homes' methods, plies them (p much resigned to deems), Monday, 2 January 2012 01:55 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, not quite. I may live two minutes from LJ but we haven't hung out enough for him to have influenced me that much. That says she does own a lovely flat in a very convenient location...
I guess I just take the chance? Totally agree about the letting down gently thing btw. You never really know someone well enough to be sure that's not what they're doing.
Neither one of us is around for the next couple of weeks - she to Burma, me skiing - so could just fizzle out anyway by the time we can see each other anyway. Hope not though.
― N1ck, Monday, 2 January 2012 02:12 (twelve years ago) link
i dunno, but, it seems to me that if you've already hooked up sexually, esp. as strangers, then it's kinda like the theory about the development of nuclear weapons re: warfare -- there's no going back to a pre-nuke world
― sarahel, Monday, 2 January 2012 02:14 (twelve years ago) link