killer to killer
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:27 (twelve years ago) link
i'm still not 100% convinced this is true, but if it turns out that way, i officially have no more use for the castro:
http://mpetrelis.blogspot.com/2011/12/castro-theatre-live-acts-replacing-all.html
my friend that works for SF Film Society says that is false.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:10 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, their FB page says it's a false rumor
― silvana mangano, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:26 (twelve years ago) link
figured when the OG source was one anonymous "insider"
i had to listen to an ad for mucinex, and it wasn't even true - kinda pissed at petrelis
― sarahel, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:27 (twelve years ago) link
stevie....uh, yeah, that was kind of embarassing. i like the beginning well enough, but from there....yuk.
congrats on your red furry friend. he sounds rad. will i meet him if we hang out when I'M IN PHILLY FROM THE 13-18??
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:33 (twelve years ago) link
and in terms of the castro theatre thing, yeah i've heard that's a rumor, too. also, morbz, hole in the wall and powerhouse are still excellent places to go, tho i must admit: th30 and i went to the latter last friday night, and the entire place shimmered with the pale chattering of meth and AIDS, and so we had to leave.
OH... and i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening, no matter the circumstances. plus, alfred, you seem to forget that i only have sex with people i like. or find attractive. or people who are intelligent. and he is none of those things.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:36 (twelve years ago) link
i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening
Can we say more than JUST that, please??
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:48 (twelve years ago) link
rolling sandbox sex lives of people we hate thread 2011
― silvana mangano, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
maybe just a "realm":
predilectionsbehavioranatomybodily functionsdisease
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:56 (twelve years ago) link
jesse:
- he's a bossy bottom who won't top— this, tbh, is a dealbreaker in my book.
- he's not into even more vanilla bdsm. and at this point in my life, i'm rather into bdsm, so that's a dealbreaker.
- he doesn't like cuddling. even a little puppy slave sub like myself likes to cuddle.
there you have it. all from a friend and former housemate who dated DiDi (as we call him) for a couple months.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:57 (twelve years ago) link
bossy bottom
oh please god I hope this is a Sweet Pickles character.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:00 (twelve years ago) link
Oh -- who are the Chicago gays? I'll be there Sunday-Wed.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:01 (twelve years ago) link
Me me! Where are you staying, what are you doing? Is Corey on here? I don't know who's who for sure right now.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:34 (twelve years ago) link
T- that sounds terrible. Not into cuddling is terrible. If he's averse to even lite kink, that's not good either. Not sure what I think about being a bossy bottom. Not sure what bossy might mean, but it sounds bad.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:36 (twelve years ago) link
Not kissing or cuddling is the biggest nagl of all time IMO. And I'll be in New Haven most of that week but I should be around the 17th and 18th! Though I work both days (at that natural foods store on 4th two blocks below South; have you been?)
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:40 (twelve years ago) link
Also can someone please explain to me refusing to top? Like I know that people have reasons for not wanting to bottom (physical discomfort, power dynamics/a threat to one's masculinity, etc) which are sometimes shitty (lol npi) but still make sense, but refusing to top is just bizarre. Does it come down to being so fucking selfish that you refuse to do anything that gets other people off if it doesn't get you off too? Like there's no discomfort in topping; at the very worst it just doesn't do anything for you. ijdgi.
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:53 (twelve years ago) link
My issue with toppings is that about 50% of the time, using a condom makes me lose my erection. This wasn't the case with a long-term partner, but definitely with newer folks.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:16 (twelve years ago) link
But never topping is weird. I've been w/ a couple guys who said they had never topped - it's just - how is that possible?
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:17 (twelve years ago) link
tomorrow's the feast of the immaculate conception!
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:38 (twelve years ago) link
you know, ppl like what they like.
Make a Venn diagram of bossy bottoms and power bottoms!
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:51 (twelve years ago) link
and include it in a poetry anthology!
― sarahel, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:52 (twelve years ago) link
umm hello? people - refusing to top is not always just bc someone doesn't feel like it. for fuck's sake. sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:03 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqp_0B3zq1E
The pronunciation manual videos are my new favorite thing on the whole web right now. This one is one of the best.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:43 (twelve years ago) link
sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.
The existence of double-ended dildos should itself confirm this.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:44 (twelve years ago) link
yeah and imho, those people suck at sex, so i don't want to have anything to do with them,
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 06:41 (twelve years ago) link
Maybe we shouldn't have FB re-friended.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:00 (twelve years ago) link
I think u mean suck badly at sex.
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:07 (twelve years ago) link
― surm, Thursday, December 8, 2011 5:03 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink
Really? Is it a psychological thing, like a discomfort in playing a certain role, or is it an actual physical difficulty/inability? Or sometimes both?
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:57 (twelve years ago) link
it's both. and tbh, i would not want to be associate with somebody who would not want to have anything to do with me bc i may or may not suck at sex.
like, what a fucked attitude. looks like you might be missing out on a lot of good people in the world.
i have had difficulty with sex in the past. i don't pretend to be some kind of casanova. i've only topped once. it's hard for me. i can't drive either. guess i'm lucky i have any friends at all.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:04 (twelve years ago) link
i mean, does it bother me? that i'm a 28 yr old man and i've only done that once? yes it does. do i give a flying fuck that you do not want to have anything to do with me bc of it? i'll survive tbh.
my favorite men from the past are the men who have been understanding with me. even on random hookups. a little sweetness goes a long way.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:10 (twelve years ago) link
I'm not categorical about any sexual practices except staying safe. If my hookup and I had had a good time before the sweat-and-tears part of the evening, I'll likely overlook any physical awkwardness.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:24 (twelve years ago) link
T, that was pretty harsh and it doesn't sound like you thought it through.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:29 (twelve years ago) link
I hope I didn't come off as critical bcz my question was one of genuine interest re: something that I knew little or nothing about. And yeah, "strongly dislikes topping" = "bad at sex" is a pretty big generalization to make. I get that versatility can be a really important thing in certain contexts but I wouldn't go so far as to imply that people who don't/can't top are just straight-up bad.
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:31 (twelve years ago) link
Wd not be surprised if most people think they're not particularly good at sex.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:43 (twelve years ago) link
If only they knew how bad people can be.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:44 (twelve years ago) link
So has the history of the world for the past twenty years.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:45 (twelve years ago) link
World history has been a bad lay lately.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:56 (twelve years ago) link
I think we could avoid being hurtful to each other if we make it explicit or implicit that "bad at sex" should mean "not what I am looking for in a lay." And I'd like to think none of us want to hurt each other.
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:00 (twelve years ago) link
i'm not hurt i'm just sayin
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:06 (twelve years ago) link
stevie i totes understand where you are coming from
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:21 (twelve years ago) link
I'm not hurt by people thinking (or, rather, knowing) I'm not a sexy beast. I'm only hurt if they think that's all I'd possibly have to offer.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:23 (twelve years ago) link
everybody got a beast and a kitten within
just the way it goes
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:37 (twelve years ago) link
oui contain multitudes
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 15:38 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, it was a little harsh, and what i really meant was, "i don't really want to have anything to do with such a person sexually," not interpersonally/friendship wise. so i retract my statement, sorry i'm such a brutish asshole.
that said, just because i don't want to sleep with someone because they can't/won't/are unable to perform certain functions isn't really something that i think is that unreasonable, or un-'sweet.' it's just a reality that certain people have certain sexual desires and needs— saying that i'm some sort of horrible shitbag because i can't sexually deal with someone who can't switch is pretty unreasonable, too, imho. just as unreasonable as i was being ;_;
just sayin.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:28 (twelve years ago) link
o whatever, u set yourself up for it with the way you phrased it and u know it. we all know what's what, but there's a way to say things.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:35 (twelve years ago) link
like remember when you called me racist bc i don't want to sleep with asian guys? maybe now you know how it feels yo
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:36 (twelve years ago) link
someone recently told me i have a "bottom personality"
― silvana mangano, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:51 (twelve years ago) link
surm, i am sorry, i didn't mean for it to be so unreasonable, and i actually didn't really 'know it' when i phrased it that way, so don't play the 'i know what's in yr head' game with me. just like i shouldn't have played it with you. it's cool, yr an awesome presence, and i didn't mean to demean you.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 19:57 (twelve years ago) link
i'm not playing any game, and i don't feel demeaned. it's all good.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 20:00 (twelve years ago) link