last night i particpated in some c2c action with a gentleman named paul
― surm, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:16 (twelve years ago) link
i sure did. nice chap.
Congrats!
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:16 (twelve years ago) link
I just noticed the last part about...keep co-mingling or something. Maybe it was a Rorschach thing.
xp
― Sandbox Jesse, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:17 (twelve years ago) link
i'm sympathetic to the general "thrust" of that "art" "piece" but it's pretty dumb imo. xp
― nuhnuhnuh, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:17 (twelve years ago) link
What is c2c?
cheek 2 cheek?
― silvana mangano, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:17 (twelve years ago) link
it is "cam2cam"
― surm, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:18 (twelve years ago) link
i know, how terrible
c 2 shining c
― Sandbox Jesse, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:18 (twelve years ago) link
can u eve
― surm, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:19 (twelve years ago) link
was hoping for cat2cat
― Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:19 (twelve years ago) link
i just know one of these days somebody from my place of work is going to be online
ew cat2cat
― surm, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:25 (twelve years ago) link
killer to killer
― Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 19:27 (twelve years ago) link
i'm still not 100% convinced this is true, but if it turns out that way, i officially have no more use for the castro:
http://mpetrelis.blogspot.com/2011/12/castro-theatre-live-acts-replacing-all.html
my friend that works for SF Film Society says that is false.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:10 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, their FB page says it's a false rumor
― silvana mangano, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:26 (twelve years ago) link
figured when the OG source was one anonymous "insider"
i had to listen to an ad for mucinex, and it wasn't even true - kinda pissed at petrelis
― sarahel, Wednesday, 7 December 2011 20:27 (twelve years ago) link
stevie....uh, yeah, that was kind of embarassing. i like the beginning well enough, but from there....yuk.
congrats on your red furry friend. he sounds rad. will i meet him if we hang out when I'M IN PHILLY FROM THE 13-18??
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:33 (twelve years ago) link
and in terms of the castro theatre thing, yeah i've heard that's a rumor, too. also, morbz, hole in the wall and powerhouse are still excellent places to go, tho i must admit: th30 and i went to the latter last friday night, and the entire place shimmered with the pale chattering of meth and AIDS, and so we had to leave.
OH... and i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening, no matter the circumstances. plus, alfred, you seem to forget that i only have sex with people i like. or find attractive. or people who are intelligent. and he is none of those things.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:36 (twelve years ago) link
i know some things about Dimitrov in bed, and let's just say it is soooooo not happening
Can we say more than JUST that, please??
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:48 (twelve years ago) link
rolling sandbox sex lives of people we hate thread 2011
― silvana mangano, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
maybe just a "realm":
predilectionsbehavioranatomybodily functionsdisease
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:56 (twelve years ago) link
jesse:
- he's a bossy bottom who won't top— this, tbh, is a dealbreaker in my book.
- he's not into even more vanilla bdsm. and at this point in my life, i'm rather into bdsm, so that's a dealbreaker.
- he doesn't like cuddling. even a little puppy slave sub like myself likes to cuddle.
there you have it. all from a friend and former housemate who dated DiDi (as we call him) for a couple months.
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 02:57 (twelve years ago) link
bossy bottom
oh please god I hope this is a Sweet Pickles character.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:00 (twelve years ago) link
Oh -- who are the Chicago gays? I'll be there Sunday-Wed.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:01 (twelve years ago) link
Me me! Where are you staying, what are you doing? Is Corey on here? I don't know who's who for sure right now.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:34 (twelve years ago) link
T- that sounds terrible. Not into cuddling is terrible. If he's averse to even lite kink, that's not good either. Not sure what I think about being a bossy bottom. Not sure what bossy might mean, but it sounds bad.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:36 (twelve years ago) link
Not kissing or cuddling is the biggest nagl of all time IMO. And I'll be in New Haven most of that week but I should be around the 17th and 18th! Though I work both days (at that natural foods store on 4th two blocks below South; have you been?)
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:40 (twelve years ago) link
Also can someone please explain to me refusing to top? Like I know that people have reasons for not wanting to bottom (physical discomfort, power dynamics/a threat to one's masculinity, etc) which are sometimes shitty (lol npi) but still make sense, but refusing to top is just bizarre. Does it come down to being so fucking selfish that you refuse to do anything that gets other people off if it doesn't get you off too? Like there's no discomfort in topping; at the very worst it just doesn't do anything for you. ijdgi.
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 03:53 (twelve years ago) link
My issue with toppings is that about 50% of the time, using a condom makes me lose my erection. This wasn't the case with a long-term partner, but definitely with newer folks.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:16 (twelve years ago) link
But never topping is weird. I've been w/ a couple guys who said they had never topped - it's just - how is that possible?
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:17 (twelve years ago) link
tomorrow's the feast of the immaculate conception!
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:38 (twelve years ago) link
you know, ppl like what they like.
Make a Venn diagram of bossy bottoms and power bottoms!
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:51 (twelve years ago) link
and include it in a poetry anthology!
― sarahel, Thursday, 8 December 2011 04:52 (twelve years ago) link
umm hello? people - refusing to top is not always just bc someone doesn't feel like it. for fuck's sake. sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:03 (twelve years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqp_0B3zq1E
The pronunciation manual videos are my new favorite thing on the whole web right now. This one is one of the best.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:43 (twelve years ago) link
sometimes ppl like, can't top. yeah. it's a thing.
The existence of double-ended dildos should itself confirm this.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 05:44 (twelve years ago) link
yeah and imho, those people suck at sex, so i don't want to have anything to do with them,
― souslatablelaplage, Thursday, 8 December 2011 06:41 (twelve years ago) link
Maybe we shouldn't have FB re-friended.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:00 (twelve years ago) link
I think u mean suck badly at sex.
― Dr Morbius, Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:07 (twelve years ago) link
― surm, Thursday, December 8, 2011 5:03 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark Permalink
Really? Is it a psychological thing, like a discomfort in playing a certain role, or is it an actual physical difficulty/inability? Or sometimes both?
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 13:57 (twelve years ago) link
it's both. and tbh, i would not want to be associate with somebody who would not want to have anything to do with me bc i may or may not suck at sex.
like, what a fucked attitude. looks like you might be missing out on a lot of good people in the world.
i have had difficulty with sex in the past. i don't pretend to be some kind of casanova. i've only topped once. it's hard for me. i can't drive either. guess i'm lucky i have any friends at all.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:04 (twelve years ago) link
i mean, does it bother me? that i'm a 28 yr old man and i've only done that once? yes it does. do i give a flying fuck that you do not want to have anything to do with me bc of it? i'll survive tbh.
my favorite men from the past are the men who have been understanding with me. even on random hookups. a little sweetness goes a long way.
― surm, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:10 (twelve years ago) link
I'm not categorical about any sexual practices except staying safe. If my hookup and I had had a good time before the sweat-and-tears part of the evening, I'll likely overlook any physical awkwardness.
― Lord Sotosyn, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:24 (twelve years ago) link
T, that was pretty harsh and it doesn't sound like you thought it through.
― Sandbox Jesse, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:29 (twelve years ago) link
I hope I didn't come off as critical bcz my question was one of genuine interest re: something that I knew little or nothing about. And yeah, "strongly dislikes topping" = "bad at sex" is a pretty big generalization to make. I get that versatility can be a really important thing in certain contexts but I wouldn't go so far as to imply that people who don't/can't top are just straight-up bad.
― Stevie :-D, Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:31 (twelve years ago) link
Wd not be surprised if most people think they're not particularly good at sex.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:43 (twelve years ago) link
If only they knew how bad people can be.
― Detrius of Life (Eric H.), Thursday, 8 December 2011 14:44 (twelve years ago) link