― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:00 (seventeen years ago) link
― masonic boom (kate), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:06 (seventeen years ago) link
― kingfish in absentia (kingfish), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:15 (seventeen years ago) link
― Bodhisattva, let me take you by the hand (kenan), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:19 (seventeen years ago) link
The initial post is what i was responding to - texts given within the first moments/days of a burgeoning relationship that just really make you go "Err..Nope."Bukowski was almost thematic at one point in my dating life. I am not the drunk blow job giving redhead that you crave, ok? I'm the other one.A nice guy fell in love with me because of my hair and my job. Through Robbins, "Still Life With Woodpecker (i think), he thought his purpose was to fall in love with a long-haired redheaded waitress. He gave me razor blade earrings for Christmas, and I thanked him. And then, a few years later, I ruined his wedding. But not on purpose!The next guy fell in love with me because I slapped him before I knew him -I was drunk and hadgotten a group of people involved in hijacking a street sign to use as a battering ram - protesting the first war, the Gulf War> it is all so silly now. "No Blood for Oil!"We ended up at my place, and i was decribing the Breughel print I had on my wall when I discovered him looking at my tits rather than the print. So I slapped him.I, of course, have no recollection of this. So I carded him the next time I saw him, because he showed up at my bar. He thought that was pretty tough! I had no idea why. I had to card people, and I didn't like his attitude! That's my blackout boyfriend. And Breughel boyfriend. He didn't have any books EXCEPT Bukowski. Doom!He was extremely handsome and had a really good stereo system. And we did a lot of drugs together. Mostly acid.he removed a nectarine pit from my vagina while tripping - I had placed it (shoved it) up there in an ill conceived moment of earth goddess hallucinations. We had eaten the nectarine.i really shoved it up there. because I had to fake contractions to get the thing out for his finger to grab it.It's almost like we gave birth to that nectarine pit together!i think i should either press submit or rethink this entire post. Fuck, it's the sandbox. I won't be puttin' that on the parenting thread!And he didn't read good books!
― aimurchie (aimurchie), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:24 (seventeen years ago) link
this is a song by J-Lo or Gwen Stefani or someone like that?
― The Real Dirty Vicar (The Real Dirty Vicar), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:26 (seventeen years ago) link
― Bodhisattva, let me take you by the hand (kenan), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:29 (seventeen years ago) link
: o
― unfished business (Scourage), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:29 (seventeen years ago) link
― aimurchie (aimurchie), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:46 (seventeen years ago) link
i hated hollebeucq (elementary particles) so much i almost started hating the friend who lent his dog-earred copy to me. we have drifted apart, tho, anyway :/
― impermanent rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 18:48 (seventeen years ago) link
I dumped her.
― jon jonson (p.j.), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:01 (seventeen years ago) link
― Ms Misery (MsMisery), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:22 (seventeen years ago) link
― After two days in hospital I took a turn for the nurse. (Fluffy Bear Hearts Rain, Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:42 (seventeen years ago) link
― Ms Misery (MsMisery), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:42 (seventeen years ago) link
Yup. We didn't go out anymore after that. It was a sweet gesture, but creepy in content and in various other ways too.
― molly mummenschanz (molly d), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:44 (seventeen years ago) link
― After two days in hospital I took a turn for the nurse. (Fluffy Bear Hearts Rain, Tuesday, 13 February 2007 19:57 (seventeen years ago) link
― hm (modestmickey), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 20:10 (seventeen years ago) link
― franny (frannyglass), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 20:57 (seventeen years ago) link
― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 21:27 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 21:45 (seventeen years ago) link
-- jaymc (jmcunnin...) (webmail), February 13th, 2007 9:27 PM. (jaymc) (later) (link)
Did this really need to be asked?
― Bodhisattva, let me take you by the hand (kenan), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 21:50 (seventeen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 21:50 (seventeen years ago) link
rrobyn, Houellebecq is hard to digest but he's an interesting writer, if somewhat of a facile cynic.
― Michael White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 22:48 (seventeen years ago) link
Also, it kind of is endemic, but not necessarily just among men. I run into a lot of people of both genders who don't read. I am constantly amazed by them.
Why, just the other night, it turned out my housemate had never heard of Geoffrey Chaucer. I mean, I can understand not having read any, but never having heard of him?
― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Tuesday, 13 February 2007 23:12 (seventeen years ago) link
― franny (frannyglass), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 01:07 (seventeen years ago) link
me too. i LOVE the books, i saw the play twice and the first time it was GREBT, second slightly less grebt (but partly cos y'know you get attached... and the girl who played lyra was the first girl who was called "upstairs" or whatever in doctor who in the simon pegg episode so i got more attached). seriously hope they don't fuck this up - the prob is it *can* be done really well - if they can do lotr they can do anything, right - so it's inexcusable if they do an h2g2 on it.
― emsk ( emsk ), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 01:19 (seventeen years ago) link
― Metrosexual Healing (crunkleJ), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 05:29 (seventeen years ago) link
http://www.jimriegelphoto.com/Images/BookCover.jpg
because this is the weirdest thing i have ever seen and i must know more.
― a mediocre black-and-white cookie in a cellophane wrapper (hanks1ockli), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:00 (seventeen years ago) link
― a mediocre black-and-white cookie in a cellophane wrapper (hanks1ockli), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:01 (seventeen years ago) link
http://www.campaignleadership.com/blogger/uploaded_images/200px-Atlas_shrugged_cover-732433.jpg
― Eisbär (Eisbär), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:02 (seventeen years ago) link
― jo ga11ucci electrix (joseph), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:12 (seventeen years ago) link
― emily simpson (emilys.), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:16 (seventeen years ago) link
yeah, even though parts of the story and some of the writing were compelling, the facile cynic part killed it for me. esp the facile part. i think i would've been into it when i was 17 though.
ok i decided that most books as gifts are going to fly with me, somehow, but if a guy gave me a card or notebook or godforbid a framed picture of, like, a black and white photo of two little kids in hobo outfits kissing and holding a hand-coloured red balloon or some crap, well, then no more dates.
― impermanent rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:18 (seventeen years ago) link
― jo ga11ucci electrix (joseph), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:21 (seventeen years ago) link
― impermanent rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 06:23 (seventeen years ago) link
This would annoy me with almost any book. Book club or relationship, not both.
― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 08:09 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:08 (seventeen years ago) link
Srsly Andrew, that's mental talk.
― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:29 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:37 (seventeen years ago) link
A lot of the sort of rock boys I used to date just didn't read. They'd read magazines, but not books, and certainly never novels. (that said, some rock boys are literate, but I was surprised by how many aren't.)
Also, office people. I work with a lot of people in IT or accountancy. I swear to god, the last bloke I dated, he owned five books - 2 of which were Grisham and 2 Dan Brown. He simply did not read. I could not get my head around it.
My girlfriend in high school was forced to keep her books out of sight because her mother thought they were "messy". They watched TV in her family - even her sci fi/fantasy books were viewed with suspicion.
I kind of take it for granted that people read, because that's the kind of family I come from, and the kind of people that I have for friends. But there are lots of people that simply do not.
It's hard not to make it sound like a value judgement or snobbery, but honestly these people's way of thinking and worldview is so far removed from mine that I've learned not to even contemplate a relationship with someone who doesn't read voraciously. It just doesn't work, it's like you're speaking different languages.
And - again, this is my opinion, not a value judgement - I would never date someone whose only reading material was bestseller standards. I mean, it's one thing to read Harry Potter or Dan Brown as a supplement to a well-rounded reading diet, but quite another if that is the only thing a person reads.
― masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:42 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:46 (seventeen years ago) link
-- Andrew Farrell (afarrel...), February 14th, 2007. (afarrell) (later)
HA HA HA!
-- accentmonkey (tris...), February 14th, 2007. (accentmonkey) (later)
yeah, really! there's something misaligned in your head/soul, my friend.
― emsk ( emsk ), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:50 (seventeen years ago) link
(Hrrmm, now that is one of my biases - I automatically equate "not reading" with "no imagination".)
― masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:51 (seventeen years ago) link
― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:56 (seventeen years ago) link
― masonic boom (kate), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 11:59 (seventeen years ago) link
― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:03 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:05 (seventeen years ago) link
― Ed (dali), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:06 (seventeen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:09 (seventeen years ago) link
― Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 14 February 2007 12:10 (seventeen years ago) link