didnt mean for it to be that specific to neb either - in general if dudes could stay off that thread as long as no one is talking to/about them, plz do. if you dont i might hand out some threadbans because thats always been the vibe of the thread in the past. thx
― PROVEN BY BOOZE SCIENCE, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 16:48 (twelve years ago) link
The thing is, we, the girls, often use that thread to talk about the behaviour of men that we find problematic or difficult to deal with, in order to find solutions if possible, or solidarity if not. This includes men that we interact with online. I know that we try not to make it about specific individuals, but the problem is, without examples it descends into generic man-bashing and generalisations which, believe it or not, most of us very strongly against.
There is now a whole nother thread where men, if they want to talk about the issues on the Girls Only thread, can do so, without invading our space.
But the thing is, in order for an individual man to get ~talked about~ on the Girls Only thread on the specific level that he was being talked, he has to be behaving in a pretty objectionable way (such as completely derailing the Mark Ruffalo thread for a couple of hundred posts) - in which case, the problem is not the Girl thread, but that behaviour in the first place.
― this is what YULE get if you xMASS with us (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 16:57 (twelve years ago) link
not making any assignations of blame here i am just kinda setting general groundrules which i think are pretty reasonable, so thats what im going with. presumably this wont be an issue because i think they're pretty easy to hold to.
― PROVEN BY BOOZE SCIENCE, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:02 (twelve years ago) link
they're too reasonable -- i prefer the old "no boys allowed in room" policy -- largely for lols
― sarahel, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:04 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, me too. No Boys Allowed In The Room was the best policy. Not even Hoos.
― his eyes suddenly filled with fierce sparkling (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:05 (twelve years ago) link
I think those are reasonable rules, too.
― wore glasses and said things (thejenny), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:07 (twelve years ago) link
It means p much that we can discuss specific examples involving people who don't post here or general issues, but not ILXors specifically, which I think is okay. The latter is what exasperated emails are for.
― wore glasses and said things (thejenny), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:10 (twelve years ago) link
^^^ yep
― PROVEN BY BOOZE SCIENCE, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:11 (twelve years ago) link
rules is rules
― Cooper Chucklebutt, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:11 (twelve years ago) link
I don't think they're reasonable without a clause saying, essentially "if you act like a massive flaming sexist cock then girls WILL tell you off"
The thing is, it's not as if several people didn't try to have reasonable conversations with him, explaining why he was being problematic and he didn't just stick his fingers in his ears going "la la la, mansplain mansplain mansplain."
I do not think it's unreasonable, at that point, to say, in the girl thread, "massive mansplaining douche is, well, a mansplaining douche!" That's hardly "throwing shade" - it's discussing a problem that we have all encountered.
― his eyes suddenly filled with fierce sparkling (Fotherington Thomas), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:11 (twelve years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/ZPXL5.jpg
― Cooper Chucklebutt, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:12 (twelve years ago) link
sorry, but theres no way im giving a pass to talking about any poster in a place where they cant respond, thats kinda mod 101 for ilx.
― PROVEN BY BOOZE SCIENCE, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:15 (twelve years ago) link
no no boys allowed
― judith, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:16 (twelve years ago) link
no mansplaining.
― another suggestbanite (rusty flathead screwdriver), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:31 (twelve years ago) link
but its kewl when gabnebb mansplains how to visit u.s. cities :)
― amon, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:37 (twelve years ago) link
since when is that ok at all
― macarena of time (step hen faps), Wednesday, 28 December 2011 17:39 (twelve years ago) link
Plz feel free to talk about me on the other thread, not here.
― illegal crew member (C.K. Dexter Holland), Tuesday, December 27, 2011 10:29 PM
― amon, Wednesday, 28 December 2011 18:08 (twelve years ago) link